Newlywed Love (#65)

May 29, 1970

As our 6 month anniversary arrived, there were still lots of question marks in our future plans, but one thing was certain: Nate and I were still crazy about each other.

From my journal:

Reading the BibleWhen I consider our marriage thus far, I am pleased pink. Not any area has been a disappointment. We do some things regularly that hold great meaning. For example, we read Scripture daily and have a bedtime prayer time daily as well. We seem to be more deeply interested in each other’s problems because of the subject matter of the prayer times.

We had to admit we’d learned a great deal about each other since we’d met, and had learned at high speed since we’d gotten married. So we wondered together how much more there would be to know about each other. “Do you think,” I said, “we’ll keeping learning new things all the way to the end?”

Kisses“Maybe so,” he said, “but so far 99% of it has been good.”

“Only 99%?” I said.

“Well, maybe 99.9%.” I loved the smile he wore when he said it.

The journal continues:

Another fabulous time is in the morning when we have a chance to cuddle. We set the alarm 20 minutes early so we can look at each other all mussed up from sleeping and swollen-eyed and pink-cheeked. It’s so neat to have some pre-workday “snestling” while it’s warm and cuddly beneath the blankets. The mood seems so soft and comfortable.

Meg's journal

What a perfect way to start off every day, caressing and saying the tenderest of words. It’s the most precious 20 minutes of the whole day. I think of that time all day long, and when I see Nate in the evening, it seems like we pick up in closeness right where we left off.

Since Nate’s last exam took place on our anniversary, it was fitting we celebrate our special milestone by going out to eat. It was extra special that for the first time in many months, he had no studies hanging over his head, no academic pressure. This made for jubilant dinner conversation, and he kindly approved of the goofy poem I’d written for the occasion. 

Meg's card

There once was a fellow named Nate

Who had many a wonderful trait.

He could often create

At a fabulous rate,

So his readers he’d all stimulate.

The silly sentiment continued for 3 stanzas, 15 lines all rhyming with the word “Nate.” Later that night I expounded further praise for my husband in my journal:

It seems unbelievably great that we’re going to get to live together and sleep together another day and another week and for years and years!

New cookie jarNate gave me a cookie jar of orange glass (on the table behind me) which I loved and promised to fill as soon as I got a chance to bake.

And his touching letter elevated the whole day to a wonderfully high level:

I’ll love you forever. Our marriage is truly in harmony with the Divine Scheme. Let us always keep it that way.    Love forever, Nate

Nate's letter

“Live peacefully with each other.” (1 Thessalonians 5:13)

Newlywed Love (#53)

April 14, 1970

Nate hadn’t had a migraine for quite a while, a wonderful reality. Tension over his studies and the long research papers he was writing had ratcheted up his stress to an all-time high, yet he remained headache-free. “Maybe all these weeks of marriage have helped you,” I said, hoping that was the case.

Both of us were happy with the way things were going between us. Though marriage had brought some surprises, virtually all of them were good. One night at dinner we decided to list everything we’d learned about each other since the wedding, positive or negative.

The stereoMost were silly things: we both thought broccoli was the best vegetable; neither liked rock music; both had red as a favorite color; both liked to read the Bible every day; both were born in August of 1945; both loved sex; both had Swedish heritage; and both liked to play a new record over and over on my old stereo set.

After dinner that night I wrote about our table-talk in my journal:

The only things we don’t have in common are, he likes Cheerios and I hate them; he likes a big fluffy pillow, and I like a flat one.

Journal

I also wrote:

I have never been more steadily happy and optimistic in my life. When I consider our marriage thus far, I am pleased pink. Not any area has been a disappointment. Actually, all areas have become better, more meaningful, more dear than I’d ever anticipated.

There was only one cloud on the horizon. Now I began having headaches. They weren’t migraines and didn’t involve blinding pain or vomiting, but they were frequent, sometimes daily. Each morning I left for work headache-free. But by the time I came home, the throbbing forehead pain was usually back.

Doing dishesNate was concerned, running and doing for me in an effort to make things better. When I came in, he insisted I lie on the couch for a pre-dinner nap, gently taking off my shoes. He brought aspirin, cool water, a snack. He did the dishes and all the cleaning.

We wondered if I was eating something that was causing a reaction or if maybe the headaches were stress-induced by my upcoming Board of Ed interview in Danville. It was true that I was worried about my lack of teacher certification, hoping by asking for a school transfer I wasn’t drawing fresh attention to my weak status. But I had never experienced headaches like these, so frequent and unrelenting.

Although Nate was anxious about my teaching status too (along with many other things), each afternoon he set his issues aside and made a valiant effort to soothe my misery with uplifting words.

We began praying about the headaches, asking the Lord two questions: What was causing them? And what could be done about them? Within a few days God had given us both answers.

“The Lord grants wisdom! From his mouth come knowledge and understanding.” (Proverbs 2:6)

Newlywed Love (#43)

March 17, 1970

St. Patrick’s Day turned out to be the most exciting day Nate and I had had for quite some time. One of the envelopes in the day’s mail came from Mary and Bervin. It was a comical St. Pat’s card with a cheerful message about them hoping to come to Champaign for another visit soon.

At the bottom of the card was a small arrow pointing down and saying, “Open.” Waiting inside the flap was the shocking message that Mary and Bervin were going to have a baby! I screamed and threw the card high in the air, jumping up and down, and grabbing Nate in a spin.

A baby coming...“A baby! A baby! We’re going to have a baby!” I said, over and over again. Our family had no young children in it, and the thought of our own little one was news I never expected. Dancing around the apartment, we celebrated this new life along with Mary and Bervin’s good fortune…. and ours. No news could have been more exhilarating!

I knew Nate probably wasn’t thrilled in the same way I was, but he was getting a huge kick out of my antics and was happy to bob and weave with me in our spontaneous dance.

Later that evening I wrote in my journal:

The biggest shock-a-roo and cool-head thing we’ve ever heard is that Mary and Bervin are going to have a PAPOOSE! How’s that for fabulous news?!?! I just screamed when I read it!! Nate and I danced around for 20 minutes – I couldn’t adequately express my joy!! Nate and I will be an aunt and an uncle! And Dad and Mom will be grandparents! GOSH!

The joy was still bubbling out of me an hour later when the phone rang. It was Lynn, calling long distance from Georgia. Don had proposed — and they were engaged! When they’d stayed with us just a few days earlier, Lynn had confided that she thought Don would be “the one” for her. When I asked about a possible proposal, she had said, “Not for 2 more years. He has to go back to Vietnam.”

But there she was, on the other end of the line, describing her Tiffany diamond ring! She told me they were thinking about September for their wedding, in the Chicago area. As she talked, I had to move up and down on the balls of my feet to get rid of the sparks of delight exploding inside of me.

Lynn plansTalking fast because of long distance charges, she asked if I would be one of her bridesmaids and said it would be a military wedding. And she said Don hoped Nate would be part of the wedding party, too. “Does he have dress blues?” she said.

I didn’t even know what that was, but learned that all the military men in the wedding would be wearing these formal navy blue uniforms. And her last question was, “Can Nate get hold of a few military swords?” Time ran out before she could explain, but surely it was going to be an exciting wedding!

The next morning Nate told me I’d been twitching and wiggling in my sleep. Maybe dancing? Or jumping for joy? Either way, those dreams must surely have been happy ones.

“Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father.” (James 1:17)