The Kindness of Strangers

Whenever I talk to Mary (still in Rochester, MN), one of the things she inevitably mentions is the thoughtfulness of strangers. She can’t understand why people who’ve never met her might be interested in her situation, much less offer to pray for her.

Many of you blog readers are in the group she’s marveling over, and one of you, a woman neither Mary nor I have ever met, did something truly special last week.

Prayer shawl.In the days before surgery, someone named Rachel asked (through this blog) if Mary owned a prayer shawl. Though I’d heard of prayer shawls, I had the misconception only priests or rabbis wore them, and only in a church or temple.

My second misunderstanding was that prayer shawls were all about prayers prayed while the shawl was being worn, but Rachel straightened me out: “While a prayer shawl is being made,” she wrote, “prayers are being said for the recipient.” And here was a stranger wanting to make something beautiful for Mary, with prayer in every stitch. Astonishing.

Prayer shawlsRachel said, “The shawl can be used in any way someone would use a shawl, as a wrap, as a covering when resting, or just to touch while it rests beside you.”

I called Mary, and it didn’t take 2 seconds to say “yes”. For some- one who believes wholeheartedly in the power of prayer, such a gift was of grand proportions.

As God would have it, the shawl (of Mary’s favorite color) arrived in my mailbox the day before I drove to Mayo Clinic. The evening before surgery, Mary and the rest of us went out to dinner, Mary’s last food-by-mouth for many weeks (due to her feeding tube). Over coffee and dessert she opened the box.

Prayer shawlOnce again she was stunned by the kindness of a stranger. As it turns out, Rachel has made prayer shawls for many: she became a widow shortly before I did and wrote, “My husband was a great part of this ministry. He might come home from the dog park, the grocery store, or the community center and tell me about someone who was dealing with something in their life he thought would be made easier if they had a prayer shawl.” And Rachel would get to work.

Her selfless act for stranger-Mary moved us all, challenging us to watch for strangers in our own lives who might need encouraging. We never know when that person might be a messenger from God, because with him, anything is possible.

IMG_0605Rachel closed her email with, “I’m honored for the opportunity to make this shawl for Mary.” And now she is a stranger-no-more.

“Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.” (Hebrews 13:1-2)

 

Mary’s prayer requests:

  1. Praise for grown “kids” taking time off work and driving far distances to spend time with Mary and Bervin
  2. Praise for God’s provision of co-workers in Mary’s ministry work at home, who have picked up the slack for her since February 15
  3. For relief from rumbling gas pain in her abdomen
  4. For steady weight gain, despite only relying on the feeding tube for nutrition

5 thoughts on “The Kindness of Strangers

  1. Karen Gwinn made a prayer shawl for my daughter, Amy, when she was going through her cancer surgery and treatment. It meant so much to all of us to know Karen was praying for Amy with every stitch. When I’m in Colorado visiting Amy and see that wonderful shawl it reminds me of God’s faithfulness and how grateful I am for friends who pray. Mary, your shawl is beautiful.

  2. What a beautiful gift – imagine being wrapped up in prayer. I will pray for Mary to gain weight – matter of fact – if she needs a transplant . . . . . : )

  3. Our church has had a Prayer Shawl Ministry for some years now and the thank-you cards attest to what a wonderful ministry it is. Just one of many ways we can be the hands of Jesus.

  4. My church, St. George in Baton Rouge, LA has a prayer blanket ministry. When my husband was ill, I was invited to go to the church office and select a blanket for him. Father Mike blessed the blanket and said a special prayer for Jed. Jed used it often and always felt surrounded by prayer. It was covering him when he passed away. So special. Blessings and prayers for you, Mary and her family.

  5. Margaret – I have a whole new conception of “prayer shawls,” so happy that Mary had this encounter with Rachel. June Green