Setbacks

The last time my grandchildren were visiting me in Michigan, I found 5 year old Skylar rifling through my trunk of board games, looking for something to play. I hadn’t seen most of those tattered old boxes for quite some time, and they brought back memories of when our kids were young, though not always happy ones. I remember often saying yes to a game but only reluctantly: “Just one, OK?” (After all, some of them could last for hours!)

Chutes and Ladders boxOne of the games our little boys loved was Chutes and Ladders. With the spin of a dial, game pieces would move ahead one square at a time, starting at #1 and marching toward #100, where a Blue Ribbon was waiting.

The only trouble was, this was a game that might have no end. The directions read, “Ladders lead up only; chutes lead down only.” And if players landed on too many chutes, the game morphed into a marathon.

Chutes and Ladders boardReal life is full of chutes, too. We call them setbacks. It’s especially true if we’re already on a path to some kind of comeback. But no restoration process is without its backward slides, whether it’s a reconciling marriage, a rehabbing addict, a healing widow, or, as in Mary’s case, a recuperating patient.

 

For the past several days Mary has been harassed by sharp abdominal pains every time she moves. It seemed localized around her feeding tube, and after the experts unclogged that, they expected improvement. But the pains continued, and so an infection was suspected. Twenty-four hours of antibiotics didn’t help, so today she underwent a detailed scan of the area. Dr. Truty’s report was, “Everything looks good.” One possibility, he said, is bowel spasms, which should clear up on its own.

Mary had been “The Poster Child for Whipple Surgery,” both before and after. She amazed the doctor, the hospital staff, and all of us with her eager-beaver approach to regaining strength. Maybe that’s why hitting a setback isn’t just about pain in the abdomen but also about pain in her spirit. And when anyone experiences the double-whammy of physical and emotional pain together, discouragement can’t be far behind.

But Mary has maintained all along that her hope is in the Lord and his Word. As she says, it’s an anchor that always holds. No matter how dispiriting the circumstances, God’s promises remain true. They don’t get worn out, spoiled, or out-of-date, and neither does he. Her Father is partnered with her for the duration, and as she needs an increase in courage, stamina, and/or optimism, he will deliver. She’s counting on it.

UP to feeling betterThen, in due course, just like with Chutes and Ladders, she’ll find herself bypassing the chutes and landing on a ladder that will elevate her directly to feeling better. And we hope it’s very soon.

“Heal me, Lord, and I will be healed; save me and I will be saved, for you are the One I praise.” (Jeremiah 17:14)

Mary’s prayer requests:

  1. For abdominal pains to cease
  2. For permission to return home by the weekend
  3. Praise for so much uninterrupted time with Bervin
  4. Praise for family and friends who faithfully pray without giving up

10 thoughts on “Setbacks

  1. We continue to pray for Mary. Her spirit is the best– prayers that her body will be equally uplifted. I was concerned to hear about the abdominal discomfort . Her whole body has been through so much, but especially her “innards”. Prayers for all the family– it hurts to see your loved one in discomfort.

  2. Praying for relief from the pain. Hope they didn’t leave anything in there that they shouldn’t have. It almost sounds like it. Praying for her spirit to remain uplifted. Constant pain can really try the soul.

  3. I am praying for Mary and her family. I praise God for Mary’s trust in Him.

  4. Dear Mary,Thanks for allowing us to pray for you. Jim and Pearl. ( I think we see your place in Shorewood, across the ravine, Margaret, from the Old Hotel. )

  5. Oh, the memories of painfully long Chutes and Ladders games… But, I know that I and the many people who know and love Mary are not sliding in our resolve to pray. Thank you for keeping us informed about how to most effectively ascend the ladder of prayer for Mary’s sake!

  6. Keeping Mary in our prayers. Herb and I will be praying for God’s encouragement for Mary during this difficult time of pain.

  7. Margaret, do you remember singing, this chorus, in Jr. church, at Moody …..”Climb, Climb up sunshine mountain, Heavenly breezes blow.”? Have not sung this song in a zillion years, and it sprung into my head, just now, while reading today’s update. I am praying for Mary’s heart to be encouraged. Please send her my love. I get to go home, tomorrow.

  8. Just wonder if Mary is allergic to anything? I continue to pray for Mary’s healing.

  9. We hope you get to go home tomorrow too .Hospitals are no fun. Sorry for your pain. Wally & I are praying for you .Happy to see Marge may go home tomorrow too .Guess her surgery went well.Haven.t heard yet. Well love you and hope things go much better for you .Wally & Barb

  10. Praying for you! Continued prayers for healing and strength.
    Many thoughts to Mary and her family!
    Much love!