Mary is a trooper. She doesn’t complain and accepts what is. And what is, for now, is chemotherapy: every Monday for 3 weeks, then a week off, then another round of the same – for 6 months. That’s a lot of chemo and a lot of stress.
First there’s the anxiety leading up to the hours-long ordeal at the hospital. It isn’t that Mary is skitterish about needles. She’s a nurse by training and has never been squeamish. She bears pain well and gave birth to 7 babies without even a whimper. But waiting in the oncology department at a hospital? That’s rough, mostly because there’s SO much waiting.
Waiting to be tested, talked-to, tested again, given results, hooked up to an IV, and waiting through the infusion. The system is first come, first served, and after each encounter with medical personnel, it’s back to the end of the line to wait again. Emotionally it’s difficult to pass the time in a crowd of very ill, very subdued patients.
Mary has come to terms with her cancer, but when she’s away from the medical world, she can set aside that reality for a while. Focusing on everyday duties common to people without cancer offers a respite from the exhaustion of pondering it all. But sitting in the chemo waiting room? That brings cancer front and center again.
And then there’s the infusion itself. It isn’t easy watching a bagful of poison drip into your system, especially when you’ve always been careful about what goes into your body. A chemo patient wonders: Will I be vomiting tonight? Or will the effects be minimal? Will I be too exhausted to do anything but crawl into bed? And if so, will I be able to sleep? These questions press hard in the chemo room.
Because of all this, daughter Stina put together a beautiful tote bag with comfort-contents, things she thought might help her mom get through 18 chemo treatments: a blanket, reading material, cozy footies, ginger root for nausea, mouthwash, a special water bottle.
Last weekend our ladies group did the same, adding to Mary’s stash: ginger tea, body lotions, sea bands for nausea, a scented candle, snack foods. She may not use everything, but we’re hoping she can feel the love behind it.
When someone has cancer, we’re not always sure what to do or say. Most of us are afraid of being insensitive without meaning to, or even causing offense. But Jesus has the instructive word on this: “Love one another.” We may not always do it perfectly, but because Mary is who she is, she receives what she’s given with joy.
And we hope she feels our love surrounding her…. even in the chemo room.
“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” (Romans 12:10)
Praising and Praying with Mary
- Continue to pray against nausea.
- Pray for more energy to help Stina with wedding plans.
- Praise for a quiet day of rest today.
Mary, you are in my prayers. May The Lord give you the grace you need to undergo your treatments.-Senia Durns
She looks beautiful! Don’t they have warm blankets to put on her while she is there? I end up with about 5 over me…one at at time..it really helps me feel cozy and our place is cold. Check and see if they do. Also, i lost my taste for Ginger and had to do peppermint. The chemicals that you taste really make for a nasty swallow unless masked with lemon or mint…to me, anyway.
She is such a trooper, but just because she was a nurse, she should get what she needs and not feel bad about it.
I love Romans 12:10. Your family is blessed with the gifts of kindness and love. You are blessed with your strong faith as you follow His Spirit, while he guides your steps. Thank you for sharing your ‘life moments’ as you are the willing hands and feet of Jesus. Much love to your family.