Today is Valentines Day, and although it was originally intended for couples, it’s come to represent love of all kinds. Because of that, those of us who aren’t part of a pair can participate also.
This week I’ve been thinking a great deal about someone precious to me, someone I love dearly, my sister Mary. We’ve all heard the expression, “You can’t out-give God.” I can say the same about her.
Mary is a giver. She never “arrives” anyplace without something special to give, a flower, a small package, a framed photo, cupcakes, or any number of other things. She’s creatively thoughtful and not just with material gifts. Her greatest giving is of effort: a willingness to sit with someone who’s hurting or to serve others by chauffeuring, making a meal, or running errands. That gift of effort also demands time, and Mary cheerfully gives big chunks of that to others, even if it means quietly setting aside her own agenda.
She’s my older sister (not by much), and ever since childhood I’ve followed her around, counting on her to have the good idea or take the lead. For example, when I was three and still sucking my thumb, my parents tried to solve the problem by pinning my pajama sleeves over my hands. Mary had a better idea and took off the pins. No wonder I wanted to stick with her.
Now that we’ve grown up, had 14 children between us, and lived separately for more than 50 years, you’d think I could maneuver through life without leaning on her, but no. I’m still calling for advice, still loving time with her, and still appreciating when she comes up with an efficient plan to reach goals… even my goals.
She’s forever organized, the kind of person who doesn’t lose track of her phone, her keys or what’s written on her calendar, and while I’m often caught scrambling, she brings calm to every storm. After decades of watching her give to others, I’m still hoping some of it will eventually rub off on me.
Mary is an excellent example of doing what God wants us all to do. He set the original standard, then sent Jesus to model what earthly servant-leadership should look like. Mary takes time to study the life of Jesus and learn from him what she’s supposed to do. But beyond that, she’s willing to actually do it. The result is a demonstration of what faith in God looks like on an everyday basis.
When we gravitate toward people like Mary, in the process we’re actually leaning toward the Lord, because godly people have become godly only by living close to him first. Their counsel is a reflection of him, and their actions mirror the behavior of Jesus. I didn’t deserve such a fine sister, but I sure am glad to have her… on Valentines Day and every day.
“Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.” (Hebrews 13:7)
Had a hard time getting comfy tonight so I got up and checked my e-mail and read your Blog, what I wonderful Valentine gift to read about your sister, Mary. God gives us blessings in so many ways!
Yes sisters are a blessing. I lost one of my sisters this past November and while I still have two remaining my heart fills the loss. God is so good to mend our families and when we understand that He put us together then we seem to enjoy each other even the more. So glad that you have such a wonderful sister who has really walked with you through this new time of your life. Blessings to you always! Thanks for sharing – I am blessed!
Thanks for describing Mary so well! Makes me smile!
Happy Valentine’s day to you and Mary too! I love reading your blogs 🙂
Marni, Thanks for the wonderful description on how God provides for us through the love of a sister. When we found out our next grandchild is going to be a little girl, I started praying that she and Addey will have the relationship that you and Mary do. Since, Jeanne , Jon nor I have had sister, we could only look for sister examples of what God would want in a family and you popped into my mind. Have a blessed day, friend.
Amen! I count it a great gift to know and work with Mary. Thank you also for reminding me how much I treasure the love of sisters and friends.
I have observed Mary from across the street in our summer home for many years and i would agree with everything you said about her. You are blessed to have each other. Happy Valentines day to both of you!
I am humbled by your sweet words. Love you too!
Dear Margaret, I too agree with what you have said about your dear sister, Mary. She is an example of godliness in every way. And you are also. I am blessed to know you both and watch you both exemplify godliness. Thank you.
Mary. What a gift from God!
Thanks Marnie for the nice tribute to Mary, it is all true. I know, by Gods grace I have lived with her the last fourty four years.
I have been so blessed to know both of you, though I met you from being involved in separate activities. You both are blessings to all that know you and are quite fortunate to have each other as sisters! Love you both! – Cathy
I praise God for the love that exists between the two of you, and the joy you bring each other.
LOVE THAT PRECIOUS CHILDHOOD PICTURE!!!
Margaret, what you wrote about Mary is what I have always thought true about both of you…tremendous examples!