Tagged

My husband loved to give me jewelry. His dad owned a jewelry store, and he’d worked there in different capacities during summers as a teen and then as a college student. He learned how to polish silver, how to deal with the public and how to make a woman happy: by bringing her something from a jewelry store.

The first piece of jewelry he gave me was a delicate necklace made of silver in a starburst design with diamond chips around the outside and a pearl in the center. He gave it to me at Christmas, the year before we got engaged, sending the message he was serious about our relationship. Over the years I’ve received bracelets, broaches, rings, pendants and earrings, all lovely. But the most creative piece went above and beyond all of those.

When Nate was in law school, he participated in ROTC, entering the U. S. Army as a reservist. The Viet Nam War was raging, and by voluntarily enlisting, he beat the draft and a sure assignment to ‘Nam.

When he went on active duty, he was issued a pair of identical ID tags informally called “dog tags.” They were worn around the neck on a 24” ball-chain at all times. Made of aluminum, they wouldn’t corrode or burn. If a soldier was wounded or killed, one tag was taken to the record-keeping officer, the other left on his body for accurate ID.

Nate never went to Viet Nam, a blessing to us as young marrieds. After he received his honorable discharge, his pair of dog tags went into a dresser drawer.

Around the time of our 25th anniversary, he retrieved one of these tags and took it to a jeweler friend, asking him to dip it in gold as a pendant for me. The dog tags represented our safe passage through a dangerous time in America’s history, and he knew I’d understand the significance.

When I opened the blue velvet jewelry box on our anniversary, I was delighted. Next to the regulation dog tag, now gilded in gold, was a mini-tag, also gold. He’d had it engraved with the Scripture that was inside both our wedding bands: “My beloved is mine, and I am his.” (Song of Solomon 2:16)

On the back it read, 11-29-69, until the end of time.” He’d carved his promise to be my husband until time ran out. Today as I fingered the necklace, his inscription took on new meaning. Time had indeed run out on our marriage, and Nate had kept his promise 100%. My heart was flooded with gratitude and deep respect.

The five lines on every dog tag are a distilled summary of that soldier’s life:

  • Line one, his surname.
  • Line two, his given name and middle initial.
  • Line three, his social security number.
  • Line four, his blood type.
  • Line five, his “brand” of religion.

At the moment of death, these hard, cold facts are the only things that matter: who you are, and where you’re going.

There are several spiritual parallels to military dog tags. God knows each of us by name and invites us to the sure knowledge of where we’ll go immediately after dying. When life has boiled down to its bare minimum, dog tag data is all that counts.

But God doesn’t need ID tags to keep us all straight. He actually offers to carve our names into his hand as a way of showing us how much we mean to him. He doesn’t ask us to carve his name on ourselves once we belong to him but does it the other way around. It’s as if he says, “I’m holding your information. It doesn’t have to be stamped into aluminum to evade corrosion or fire. It doesn’t have to be strung on a ball-chain or hung around your neck. And there doesn’t need to be two copies, because who you are and where you’re going is supernaturally protected from all harm.”

Nate made a promise to me, “until the end of time.” God made a promise to all of us, “until the end of time, and throughout eternity.”

“See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands.” (Isaiah 49:16a)

“But now, this is what the LORD says— he who created you… ‘Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.’ ” (Isaiah 43:1)

7 thoughts on “Tagged

  1. Preach this next Sunday, Margaret; it’ll make a fresh new impression since it’s so unique and contains such “vital data”. Thanks again for the refreshing devotional!

  2. One of my favorite things about Papa was seeing how much he loved you. He showed all of us the way a husband should treat his wife. I miss you, Mom. Thanks for writing every day. You are gifted. Love you!

  3. Dear Margaret,
    I can imagine you walking about your house, setting worthwhile things before your eyes. You have recently written of Nate’s things, precious things, and I can see you running your fingers over their surfaces, letting your mind drift back in time.
    Your mind is also doing another remarkable thing. It is making deliberate choices. All of us benefit from your reflections, and you are a wonderful writer. But not a single one of us would blame you if you had the chance to trade it all in for more time with Nate. As Linnea observed first hand, Nate has been quite the husband, and his loss is a staggering blow for you.
    So as you hold those “dog tags” you are making a deliberate choice to “soldier on.” It would be easy to collapse in a pile of grief every time you come across one of these remembrances, and no doubt you do, but you are choosing a remarkable thing as well. You are choosing to dwell on what is lovely and honorable, things of good repute, excellent and worthy of praise. You are choosing to let earthly things draw you to heavenly considerations. No small task. The exercise of that mental discipline, as exhorted by Paul, must be a key to why he was able to later in that same chapter say he had learned to be content in every circumstance.
    Hushed in my heart observing you walk through grief.
    Love,
    Terry

  4. Today would have been my beloved sister’s birthday….not many people still remember, or even think of it, but to the close tightknit few who do, we send flowers to my “soldiering on” parents and share a few precious phone moments of what makes Terry still so alive and among us. The dog tags today reminded me of the special place jewelry held in Terry’s heart….she cherished every class key, every charm,every ring, every nonsensical political symbol and every action oriented slogal that were so key at the time…she truly lived in the moment, and Nate seems to have had that same spirit. Gold dipping his dog tags with Scripture to engrave its significance is a powerful way to capture forever not just his own mortality but his moment in time. And in so doing, reminding us we all have one and to make the most of it. Bless you for the mental and the visual image. And the challenge to pursue with the time we have left to determine who we are, and where we are going. What a blessing to know my sister knew both and embraced it with the same zeal that Nate did.