A Pinning

PinterestInternet users might know the word “pinning” from the site pinterest.com where they can pin photos of personal interest to “pinboards”, like yummy-looking recipes, clever decorating ideas, or hoped-for travel destinations.

But this isn’t the only kind of pinning. Wrestlers can win a match by “pinning” their oppo- nent’s shoulders to the mat for a required number of seconds.

And surgeons sometimes perform “pinnings” to stabilize unsteady joints. Our mom had this kind of surgery after breaking her hip.

Back in the 1950’s a college girl could be “pinned” with her boyfriend’s fraternity pin as a pre-engagement commitment. This “pinning” was followed several months later by a diamond ring and soon after that, a wedding band.

Stina's pinOne other kind of “pinning” is accompanied by a formal ceremony in a crowded room filled with people taking pictures. It’s the official welcoming of a nursing student into the profession, and each one receives a pin representing the college where they were trained.

 

Mary's pinning

Mary and Bervin attended Stina’s pinning today in Chicago, excited to see their newly-graduated daughter step into the next phase of her life. It was especially meaningful for Mary, who remembers her own 1966 pinning ceremony. Stina’s tender heart, much like her mother’s, guarantees that she will be the kind of nurse who consistently blesses her patients.

All of these pinnings have something in common: each one is the outward evidence of what’s been going on inside. For example, Pinterest lets us know what someone is about to do, try, or make. A wrestler’s pinning informs the crowd of his determination to dominate his opponent. A fraternity pinning reveals the strong love of a guy for a girl, and a nurse’s pinning tells the world she’s learned how to medically assist a patient.

And there’s one other pinning, a more important event than all the others combined. It’s the moment we fasten ourselves to our heavenly Father in a permanent partnership. Once we’re pinned to him, there’s no way we can be unpinned. Nothing exists strong enough to pull us apart. And our joy in this pinning lets others know how we feel about the One to whom we’ve been pinned.

IMG_1515As Stina moves into the busy world of active nursing, may the pin she wears be a steady reminder of her permanent, personal connection with the Lord. May she take advantage of his expertise with hospital patients and health problems, by first getting his opinion about what each patient needs. And if she follows his instructions, she’ll end up the most popular nurse in the whole hospital.

“Whoever comes to me I will never cast out.” (John 6:37)

 

Praising and Praying with Mary

  1. Praise for another very good day, this one watching Stina graduate
  2. Praise for being able to eat regular food again
  3. Pray that pain around the feeding tube would calm like it did before

 

Hoping for Happiness

???????????????????????????????Every young girl dreams of one day doing and wearing everything they see adult women doing and wearing in front of them. The other day I came around the corner and found Emerald happily fingering my stash of bracelets and broaches. She knew just what to do with each item, having watched the rest of us.

When Emerald gets a bit older, her biggest fashion fantasy will be to one day choose a wedding gown and be a bride. It’s the grandest of mysteries to a young girl, tantamount to becoming a princess. The more elaborate the gown, the greater the aspiration.

Surrounded by childrenAt every wedding celebration the bride will eventually end up encircled by young girls wanting to touch her dress, peek through her veil, and receive her blessing. They aren’t that interested in the groom, simply because his outfit can’t possibly compare.

Of course as time passes, a little girl grows up and becomes intensely interested in one specific groom, someone she can walk down the aisle to meet while wearing her fairy-tale finery adorned with pearls, or sparkles, or lace.

IMG_3880Today Mary and her daughter Stina had the delight of turning away from cancer concerns and moving into the magical world of shopping for a wedding gown. Stina has something very specific in mind, and she didn’t find it today, but continuing the hunt is half the fun. (See sample try-on at right.) The shopping trip held special meaning for Mary, who fully intends to be present on that important day some months down the road. Several weeks ago, she wasn’t so sure, but today, hope is alive and strong.

Scripture uses a bridal metaphor repeatedly:

  • the church as a bride readying herself for her groom, Jesus Christ;
  • the covering of salvation paralleling beautiful bridal clothes;
  • God rejoicing over us as a bridegroom does over his bride;
  • the New Heaven prepared for us as a bride prepares to meet her groom;
  • a bride receiving her groom’s perfect love, mirroring how Christ loves us;
  • the feasting at a bridal banquet in the New Heaven.

Earthly marriage is meant to be a mini-version of the relationship Jesus wants to have with believers, a microcosm of successful unconditional love. Every bride and groom hope for that kind of bond, and Stina and Evan are no exception. Because God is the Originator of marriage and is himself love personified, their best bet will be to use him as their marriage consultant all the way along. If they do, he’ll see to it that their hope for a happy union will not be disappointed.

Meanwhile, Stina and the women closest to her will continue on a happy hunt for the perfect wedding gown.

“I am overwhelmed with joy in the Lord my God! For he has dressed me with the clothing of salvation and draped me in a robe of righteousness. I am like…. a bride with her jewels.” (Isaiah 61:10)

Praising and Praying with Mary

  1. Praise for God providing periods of rest and joy between times of stress and physical challenge
  2. Praise for 3 good Chicago hospital choices
  3. Pray for continued discernment on choosing which one
  4. Praise for today… another good day!

The Blessing of Children

???????????????????????????????When God blesses two parents with 7 children as he did Mary and Bervin, he also ensures all kinds of ripple-effect mini-blessings along with them. Not only will the mom and dad have babies and preschoolers charming them for many years, but the school years offer their own decades of joy. Which is not to say there aren’t a few bumps along the way.

Mary and I have often talked about the difficulty we both had trying to spread our love and attention over each of our seven while we were raising them. But the up-side was their steady attentions to each other, not to mention the multiplied dividends so many children would end up returning to their parents, once they became adults.

During these especially difficult days of Mary’s cancer and its treatment, she and Bervin are experiencing that special loving attention from their grown kids. And it’s God who gets the credit for setting it all up this way.

Children come into a family “insisting” mommy and daddy serve them non-stop. None of us become parents because we want pay-back, but when it eventually happens (usually taking us by surprise), it’s pure delight. By the time children have grown into adults, we’ve gained meaningful friendships that nourish us every bit as much as we’ve nourished them.

And then there are those God-given gifts we receive through our adult children that are above-and-beyond, gifts like children-in-law, and grandchildren.

Jo and familyAnd so smack dab in the middle of Mary’s cancer and chemo, the Lord has gifted these two parents with a couple of these mega-gifts:

Their 30-something daughter, Johanna, and her family of five have just announced that a new baby will join them in October, putting Mary and Bervin into double-digit grandparenting!

Engaged

 

 

 

And if that wasn’t thrill enough, 20-something daughter Stina called a week ago with the exciting news she and boyfriend Evan had just gotten engaged! Mary and Bervin will gain a 5th in-law child, a young man they’ve already come to love.

And so the weeks continue on, a mix of positives and negatives for this family (as it is for most families). The important thing is for all of us to recognize God’s presence in both the good stuff and the bad, thanking him for all of it. His purpose is to teach us through  circumstances, and he’s hoping we’ll receive them with open minds and open arms.

And isn’t it interesting to note how often he includes our children as part of his lesson plans?

“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.” (Psalm 127:3)

Mary’s Prayer Requests and Praises

  1. Praise that she could go back to attending her Bible study today
  2. Pray for the courage to face chemo well
  3. Continue to pray for wisdom in choosing which hospital for chemo