Marriage Preparation

The RingWhen a girl becomes engaged, she starts down a unique path that will never be repeated. After she receives a ring of commitment from her future husband, she moves through her last months as a single, focusing on becoming prepared to marry.

Part of that is the pleasure of receiving gifts for the new home-to-be. Today we had the fun of attending a Chicago bridal shower for our son Klaus’ bride-to-be, Brooke. Over scrumptious chicken salad we watched her open dishes and other items she and Klaus will need as they begin married life on June 22.

The Guests

Brooke had never met many of those attending today’s shower (friends of mine), which might be tense for some brides. But she smiled through answering many questions as guests happily became acquainted with her. If she was stressed, it didn’t show, and she charmed us all.

When a bride and groom come together in marriage, it’s never just about the two individuals but is the union of two extended families. In recent months as we’ve been celebrating with Brooke and Klaus, our family and friends have been getting to know Brooke’s family and friends, and both groups are finding their worlds expanding to include the other. This phenomenon is one of the enchanting byproducts of doing marriage God’s way.

Today’s devotional thoughts were brought to us through Connie, a friend of mine since we were both in diapers. She compared two weddings: the one that will happen on June 22, and the one God is planning (for those who love him) at the end of the age. Scripture uses the symbolism of a wedding to help us understand the close relationship Jesus longs to have with us. He will be the groom, and we, the church, will be his bride. There will be a wedding feast the likes of which we’ve never seen, and he encourages us to look forward to it, even now, as he is preparing for it.

The Bride

Connie said, “Brooke, there may be little things that go wrong on your wedding day, but as the Bride of Christ you will one day experience a perfect wedding. Earthly marriage may include set-backs, but marriage to Jesus as “The Lamb of God” will be flawless. It will be everything every bride hopes for in a relationship, without a single misunderstanding or mistake.

These thoughts got us all thinking. No marriage can be perfect. All husbands and wives get frustrated with each other at some point and experience disappointment. But the future bridegroom, Jesus, is already in love with Brooke and Klaus and wants their marriage to succeed so it can be an example of his future marriage to the church. So even before they get started, he has already made himself available for assistance, should their path ever need smoothing.

Celebration

And over chocolate cake we all said, “Amen to that!”

“Blessed are those who are invited to the wedding feast of the Lamb.” (Revelation 19:9)

No Place Like Home

Mail from SarahMy UK co-grandma, Sarah, is married to Cliff, who recently traveled to London and brought back something special. It arrived yesterday: an in-tact 6” x 9” envelope, plump-full. (See yesterday’s blog.) Inside was a beautiful linen tea towel depicting the British Parliament – House of Lords, House of Commons, and the familiar London landmark, Big Ben.

I hadn’t expected a replacement towel for the one that was lost in the mail, so this gift was a charming surprise. Having been to London twice, I recognized the landmarks, but even if I hadn’t, I would have known Big Ben from movies, pictures, and textbooks.

Taj Mahal

As I studied the towel, I thought of all the well-known places in our world I haven’t visited but still would recognize, for example, the Taj Mahal, The Great Wall of China, Stonehenge, Niagara Falls, The Sphinx. As school children we studied these impressive wonders and saw pictures of them, becoming acquainted from afar.

Last night Nelson, Birgitta, and I had an interesting dinner-time discussion about the biblical new heaven and new earth. Although there is no way to visit these places, we do have textbook pictures of what they’ll be like, which invites us to get acquainted with them as we did with the famous places in our school books.

God wants us to know that one day he’s going to bridge the gap between heaven (the spiritual) and earth (the physical) by bringing them together. The Bible tells us he’ll make a new heaven and earth for us, describing what they’ll look like after he combines them, although much is still left to our imagination. But since he’s calling our new home “earth,” he probably intends for it to be familiar to us, a better version of what we know now.

Maybe he’ll eliminate all the undesirables of our world, then enrich all the good parts, and add heaven. If that’s true, when the time comes to go there, we’ll probably find it pleasantly familiar (but greatly enhanced). Maybe we’ll find roses without thorns, water without floods, gardens without weeds, and seasons without storms. But roses, water, gardens, and seasons will make our heavenly-earth feel very much like home.

Perhaps God is excited about our reaction to his new heaven and earth the same way parents anticipate a child’s response to a longed-for gift. Since he tells us some of what eternity will be like, he must want us to develop a longing for it, not just in his textbook version but in actual experience.

Tea Towel

I’m grateful to have visited the famous landmarks on my stunning new tea towel from Sarah. And maybe someday I’ll get to see a few more of the legendary sights our world has to offer. But most of all, I want to see what God will show us, knowing it’s going to be out of this world.

“This is the plan: At the right time he will bring everything together under the authority of Christ – everything in heaven and on earth.” (Ephesians 1:10)

An Empty Feeling

Hans and KatyOur son Hans lives in England full time and is married to Katy, who was born and raised there. He first encountered Katy on a 5 month mission trip based in New Zealand, and by mid-way through those weeks, he knew she was the one-and-only for him.

Nate and I worried it might only be the equivalent of a summer camp romance that might fade after they returned to their native countries, but just the opposite happened. They’ve had a strong, Christ-centered marriage for 6 years now.

Shirt-tail Relatives

We four parents enjoyed developing relationships, too, experiencing many common bonds as we got to know each other. Cliff was a city lawyer like Nate, and both loved history. They, too, had a large family (5 children), and Sarah was an at-home mother, investing heavily in hearth and home as I had. Best of all, we related through our faith in Christ.

I remember our first visit to Katy’s childhood home. Sarah, who has always baked the family bread from scratch, had a stove/oven like I’d never seen before. Her “aga” was a wonder, always “on” with higher heat in some compartments than others. There was no temperature dial, but Sarah knew where to put her bread, where souffle cooked best, and where to gently warm leftovers.

An aga stove and oven

Since Sarah chose not to have a dishwasher, the stainless bar across the front of the aga served as an ideal place to dry dish towels. Their well-used tea towels depicted places of interest the family had been, and I liked spreading them out to see. It didn’t take long for Sarah and I to establish a tea towel appreciation club of sorts, and since we first met, we’ve been sending interesting towels back and forth across the ocean.

Two weeks ago, a mysterious 6” X 9” envelope appeared in my mailbox with Sarah’s return address on it and nothing inside. Along with the customs stamp, air mail sticker, and “Royal Mail” label was a red ink stamp from our local post office: RECEIVED WITHOUT CONTENTS. No explanation was given.

Empty envelope

From Sarah’s note on the customs sticker I saw she’d written “linen” and knew I’d missed out on another tea towel, along with a meaningful note that surely accompanied it. The empty envelope made me feel empty inside.

Life is full of empty experiences, most of them far more serious than an empty envelope. The Bible actually tells us to expect that kind of thing. Whether Sarah’s tea towel disappeared by accident or a misdeed we’ll never know, and “why-answers” about life’s other empty experiences usually aren’t forthcoming either.

But there is satisfaction in knowing that every empty feeling of human experience will one day be filled by God. And I believe (just for the fun of it) that he’ll even let us know what happened to Sarah’s missing tea towel.

“Your throne, O God, endures forever and ever. You rule with a scepter of justice.” (Hebrews 1:8)