Careful Watching

This afternoon I watched 5 young children race down the dune and into Lake Michigan’s gentle waves without a moment’s hesitation or a backward glance. Although they seemed to be in the 6-8 year range, no adult was following. No one was shouting, “Wait till I get there!”

Watching them cavort in chin-deep water, I was reminded of my own childhood and similar unsupervised water play at the same beach. When Mary and I grew up and had children ourselves, they also splashed freely there from sun-up to sun-down.

Whenever we had young babies, we’d arrive at the beach on the “early shift” so that by mid-afternoon our little ones could be back home for naps. If Mom was at the cottage too, she was always willing to listen for the nappers so Mary and I could head back to the waterfront alone.

One summer afternoon in 1975, while our little ones were sleeping with their grandma in charge, Mary and I went back to the beach to luxuriate in some time without any children. All of a sudden Mary said, “Hey… Look down the beach. Isn’t that Nelson and Julia wading into the water?”

Nelson and Julia

Sure enough, the 2 two-year-olds we’d put to bed not long before were wading into the water dressed in their cloth diapers and rubber pants. We ran down and collected them, then headed home to get the story from Mom.

“They weren’t tired,” she said, “and wanted to go back to the beach. So I pointed them in the right direction and hoped they’d find you.”

This meant walking 5 blocks (and making two correct turns), climbing a big dune (paved), and walking down 100 concrete steps to the sand where we were sitting amidst many others. Somehow these little ones did that, though it was unsettling watching them walk into the water unaccompanied.

Steps

But then again, it was typical Mom. When we asked if she’d been worried they might not make it, she said, “Oh, but they did.”

This grandma was a risk-taker. She’d sent them off “hoping” they’d reach the beach and find us, but if not, “hoping” another mother would step in and help. And behind all of that shaky logic, she believed Julia and Nelson had guardian angels watching over them.

God is not a risk-taker like Mom was. He doesn’t have to be, because he’s omniscient. He’s 100% capable of watching over children because his future knowledge is complete. Mom “hoped” everything would work out, but she wasn’t sure. God, on the other hand, is always sure. And he has legions of angels to do his bidding.

As for that little gang of young swimmers I saw today, I watched for quite a while. Somewhere an adult was probably “hoping” they’d be OK at the beach, and amazingly, it all worked out fine.

“Be careful that you never despise a single one of these little ones — for I tell you that they have angels who see my Father’s face continually in Heaven.”  (Matthew 18:10)

Marking Time

Birthday crown of suckersWhen we were little kids, every birthday was a big deal. Older was always better, and when someone asked our age, we didn’t just say “six” or “eight.” It was “six and a half” or “almost nine.”

Numbers are important to children. I remember hearing a conversation between our Linnea and her friend Nancy when they were 5 and 6. The girls were in a discussion where one was trying to top the other. Nancy said, “I bet my dad is older than your dad. He’s 50!”

Linnea, wanting to throw out a number higher than that said, “Yeah, but my dad weighs more than yours!” Both were right, so each was satisfied. In the minds of children, bigger is always better.

High blood pressure

We adults consider numbers to be important, too, though we’ve learned that bigger isn’t always better, as in high blood pressure, high risk investments, high taxes.

We like numbers because they’re a tangible way to check on our progress through life. How many miles per gallon is my car getting? How much will that plane ticket cost me? How many calories are in that dessert?

Some numbers, though, outweigh others: birth dates, death dates, marriage dates. Brooke and Klaus have been married 19 days now, and as the weeks pile into months and then years, 2013 will always be significant to them. They’ll forever see that number as momentous, the year when they officially, legally, willingly altered their status from individuality to togetherness, single to married. If they have children someday, 2013 will be an important groundwork year for their whole family.

This weekend a knock on our front door brought something unique to our newlyweds, a numbers-oriented wedding gift from good friends Justin and Krystal. They delivered a hand-made plaque made of sturdy wood and edged with rope, measuring 30” wide. It simply says, “Nyman, EST. 2013” and will be a constant reminder to Brooke and Klaus of their foundational year.*

EST 2013

This good-looking gift is exceptional in two ways: it was made by the hands of their friends, and it recognizes the value of long-term marriage. Dating a plaque with the year rather than month and day assumes the couple will be stockpiling lots of them.

In 2023 they’ll celebrate 10 years together. In 2038 they’ll have a party marking 25 years, and in 2063 it’ll be a 50-years-married blow-out. Maybe they’ll bring Buster and Krystal’s plaque with them to the party that day so as their guests walk in the door, it’ll be the first thing they see, a reminder that it all began waaaay back in 2013.

They will have no fear of bad news; their hearts are steadfast, trusting in the Lord.”  (Psalm 112:7)

* [The fish logo is a topic for another day.]

Crawling Along

Emerald at 8 monthsEight month old Emerald has accomplished a great deal in her short life, learning to recognize people, communicate in different ways, speak her first word (ma-ma), sit up, shake musical instruments, and eat solids. Since she’s checking off her milestones in the usual order, her next accomplishment will be crawling.

Already she does “the bridge,” a hands-and-knees crawling-lookalike, but so far it’s gone nowhere, though that’s not to say she doesn’t move. She’s perfected the belly-swivel and can do a 360 spin with excellence.

I remember when my firstborn was 8 months and was stuck in one spot just as Emerald is now. I figured he was frustrated and decided to teach him to crawl. Every day I worked with him on the carpet, moving his arms and legs in left-right crawling positions, showing him how.

Crawling!

As I continued tutoring him (which resembled a strange type of physical therapy), he’d often plop chin-first onto the rug, unable to coordinate his 4 limbs. Several weeks later, when he began to crawling for real, I beamed with pride at my young student, patting myself on the back for his success.

No one told me he would have crawled on his own, had I never worked with him. An experienced parent would have known that, and as my other 6 children came along and crawled by themselves, I learned it too. God is the One who programmed babies to crawl and later walk, wonderful gifts, but that doesn’t mean the process is easy for them. Each one has to develop persistence, working hard at it day after day, falling and failing again and again.

Our heavenly Parent does something similar with us. He saves our souls and then lets us work at becoming Christ-like. Unlike learning to crawl or walk, this isn’t a task that can be successfully checked off a list. It’s an effort that lasts a lifetime.

But just as God programs children to crawl and walk, he programs us with something, too. The 17th century philosopher Pascal called it “a God-shaped vacuum in the heart of every man” that can only be filled by Christ. And that’s what’s drawing us when we begin a relationship with Jesus. We find ourselves desiring to become more like him. But just as a baby struggles to crawl and walk, we must persist in our efforts to walk in righteousness. When we do, God is pleased.

Pre-crawling

As for Emerald and her non-crawling, we’ve found the solution: to encircle her with toys so that as she swivels, she always has something fun to do. One of these days, though, she’ll crawl right out of that circle…. because that’s what God programmed her to do.

“Work hard to show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear. For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.” (Philippians 2:12-13)