What did you do all day?

Having just returned from a week with Linnea, Adam, and three of my grandchildren, today’s post is a tribute to all parents of  young children. (Note: The details expressed here are not the experiences of last week, as you know from yesterday, but are a composite of parents in general.)

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Mud play

A husband arrived home from work one day at the same time he always did. As he pulled into the driveway, he spotted his two young children playing in a mud puddle in the front garden. He was shocked to see they were still in their pajamas, and the chocolate smears on their faces told him they’d had treats just before dinner. After greeting them but keeping his distance in the face of all that mud, he asked, “Where’s your mother?”

“In the house,” they pointed.

When he walked through the front door announcing his arrival as always with “Honey, I’m home!” he slipped in something on the floor: peanut butter, a blob the size of an egg. Quickly removing his shoes and tip-toeing through a mine field of debris, he looked in the direction of the kitchen where he hoped to see his wife making supper, as she always did. But all he saw was wall to wall chaos.

Off the hook

A bucket from the sandbox, turned sideways, sat on a pile of sand, the shovel nearby. There was chocolate pudding on the couch, milk-soaked Lucky Charms ringing a bowl on the desk, and bits of cut-up paper strewn like confetti. The wall phone dangled by its cord.

Kicking toys and books out of his path, he found the refrigerator standing open and an uncapped gallon of milk lying on its side, its contents puddled around books on the floor. A brand new box of Band-aids had been emptied on the counter, some stuck to dirty dishes. Wet dish towels littered the floor.

Oozing goo

A brand new bag of cookies had slipped into a sink full of cold, greasy dishwater, and the table, usually set for dinner, was covered with coloring books, crayons snapped in half, markers without their caps, and open glue oozing onto the table. Glitter sparkled everywhere.

Starting to panic, this husband began hollering for his wife. “Honey? Honey!”

“Up here,” came her calm voice from upstairs.

Fearing she’d fallen and couldn’t get up, he bounded up the steps, stumbling over dirty laundry and stuffed animals. With nervousness in his voice he called, “Where are you?”

“In the bedroom!”

He burst through the door and found her—still in her pajamas, propped comfortably in bed with three pillows, reading a book. Smiling at her husband, she greeted him with a smile. “Hi, Dear.”

Seeing she was perfectly fine, his anger flashed.

“What in the world went on here today?”

“Well,” she said, “every day I do many different things, but today? I didn’t.”

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“Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 19:14)

Look and See

March is the month we northerners like to “think Florida.” After wintertime, whether severe or mild, the thought of replacing naked grey trees with green palms is enticing. Both Nate and I grew up in nuclear families that piled into the family sedan and headed south about this time of year, making the long, slow road trip part of the vacation fun.

Then Nate and I took our first couple-trip to Florida before we had children, staying with college friends in Reddington Beach. And after children, we locked onto a tradition that carried on for decades, driving a minivan full of kids and blow-up toys to Sanibel Island every spring.

When our Linnea found her true love in a family that had lived in Florida for several generations, we had another good reason to head to the land of orange trees and shell beaches. This week, we’re back again, at least Birgitta, Emerald, and I are. We’ve been hanging with Adam, Linnea, Skylar (4), Micah (3), and Autumn (1), though it’s been far from ideal.

Micah

All 3 children have been sick, starting with ear-aches, then upper respiratory infections, moving into hacking coughs, followed by severe pink eye, fevers, vomiting, and finally head colds. Part of living in sick bay all week has also been the struggle to get necessary medicines into these little people, stretching creativity and sometimes patience to the limit.

Skylar

Though we’ve kept face-washing cloths separate, the children have shared their sicknesses anyway. That is, all except 4-month-old Emerald. Our additional challenge has been to keep her disease-free, and with all the juicy coughing and sneezing going on, that hasn’t been easy.

Autumn.

Raising children can be demanding, but this complex week has been over-the-top. So why did God allow such an assault all at once, and during the week of our vacation? Why did he ask so much of these young parents? Is it simply a forced learning of sacrifice? Or maybe his insistence that they give more than they get? Or even a test about putting others ahead of themselves?

I think it’s something different than all that. Every parenting struggle is an opportunity to search for God, who buries himself like hidden treasure within the details of difficulty. There’s a verse in Isaiah that I used to read negatively: “Truly you are a God who has been hiding himself.” (45:15) But could it be he hides in order to see who will work to find him?

During a week of swollen eyes, runny noses, and tear-stained cheeks, I’ve found him in several places: in the ever-expanding patience of Adam and Linnea; in the way a very sick Micah rested his head on my shoulder during story time; in Skylar’s thoughtfulness as she faithfully covered her cough while close to the baby; and in God’s gifts of grace to endure the assault of diseases he allowed.

Emerald

And I’ve seen him as he’s protected Emerald, who will be heading home tomorrow… disease-free.

“The one who seeks, finds.” (Matthew 7:8)

Generational Faith

Since the Garden of Eden, God’s heart has been filled with love for humankind, unshakeable, unmatched, supernatural love. He loves as if we are worthy of it, despite knowing full well the details of why we’re not. But through the generations his love hasn’t wavered. He’s given us his very best by offering his own Spirit to us, not just to live with us but to live within us.

This is a love-gift beyond measuring or, for that matter, beyond understanding.

Records.

In studying my family history, I’ve seen this practical gift lived out in the lives of one Spirit-filled generation praying for another, someone somewhere being sure God was listening and would answer.

As my father, Carl Johnson, grew up, his father Carl Johansson, was praying for him (yesterday’s blog). Reading further, I saw evidence that Carl Johansson’s father, Johannes Andersson, had prayed for his son, too. The notes attached to his genealogy say, “He trusted God and bent his knees praying to Him every day.”

Johannes’ son remembered listening to his father sing hymns and read psalms aloud, as well as watching him study a calendar with biblical passages ascribed to every day of the year. Toward the end of his life Johannes helped plan an evangelistic outreach in Sweden called Mission-house but was able to attend only one meeting before “he left his life on earth” at the age of 62.

This man had two children by his first wife, who died shortly after giving birth to their second child. With his second wife he had six more, and these children testified that as their father aged, he told them, “Take care of your house, because you will have to die.” Of course he was referring to the house of personhood, that they ought to live uprightly, because one day they’d have to give an account of themselves to God.

Johannes Andersson was living for the Lord even after he’d encountered intense sorrow in losing his young wife to death and later two of his other children as well. His faithful servanthood was evident to the end, however. After entering into his final illness, he had been attending a prayer meeting one night when he didn’t come home on schedule. His family was worried, knowing he was close to death, until he finally walked in after midnight.

Instead of going directly home, he’d walked to a relative’s home to work at reconciling two extended family members who hadn’t been getting along. Apparently he succeeded, because the genealogy notes mention the two women taking his advice and calling it “good.”

One week later, his son said, “My father’s life ended in peace,” and we know why. He’d embraced Christ as Savior while still a youngster, and why was that? Because one more generation back, someone had been praying for him in the power of God’s Spirit… just as someone has lovingly prayed for you and me.

“Know that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations.” (Deuteronomy 7:9)