Slow…. But Sure

We live in a high speed world that demands we accomplish more in less time but get better results. This stands in sharp contrast to the way God works, and as Mary and the rest of us are learning, the way our bodies work, too: healing happens slowly.

Nausea has plagued her worse than the still-raw wounds left by Dr. Truty’s scalpel. It isn’t that the medical staff isn’t working hard to help her get better. Today, for example, Mary was visited by the surgical team of doctors, by multiple floor nurses, a few techs, several volunteers, and an impressive “pain management team” of three. All of them are trying to bring healing to her, listening closely what she says about how she’s feeling.

Nurse call buttonOur problem is we want her complaints fixed “yesterday”. It’s the same thing when Mary needs a nurse and pushes the call button. We expect she’ll come bursting into the room at a fast clip, 15 seconds after the light goes on. But though we sense we’re surrounded by experts, the machinations of a large hospital function painfully slow. The same goes for the healing of a wounded body.

photo(116)Since Monday night when Mary arrived in her hospital room after surgery (flashing a peace sign), several tubes, hoses, and lines connecting her to helpful machinery have been removed. This is tangible evidence improvement is indeed being made. Though her body still hurts, each day brings bits of progress.

And there’s a scriptural parallel to all this slow healing. God frequently uses the human body to picture spiritual truths. For instance, he parallels eye problems with the sin of judging others, and hearing trouble with a refusal to listen to his instruction. He uses the images of left and right hands to describe discreet giving, and compares different body parts to different spiritual gifts. He also labels the church a body, with himself as the head.

Mary’s slowly healing body can also represent something spiritual: God’s slow, gentle teaching to those who want to learn from him. Often he has to instruct us with the same lesson again and again before we get it. Learning takes time.

Occasionally we slip backwards, too, just like Mary’s body does. Her nausea may decrease while pain increases. Or cotton-mouth might improve with a spray, but the spray tastes terrible. And so we keep at it, in Mary’s case pushing the call button for help, and in spiritual matters calling to God for help in our Christian lives.

In both cases progress will come. Slowly, yes, but surely, too.

“Desire without knowledge is not good — how much more will hasty feet miss the way!” (Proverbs 19:2)

Mary’s prayer requests:

  1. For effective pain meds that don’t increase nausea
  2. For better nighttime sleep for Mary, and also Bervin (on a cot in the corner)
  3. Continued gratitude for so many people still praying for her!

 

A Word from Mary

Hello everyone,

Trusting GodMargaret has graciously given me the opportunity to say a few words to you, and I am thrilled to do so.  I am overwhelmed and touched by the outpouring of love and support.  First, that Margaret would take the time and precious space in her blog to share my story and second, that so many of you would respond by praying for our family.  God is answering the prayers of His people and giving us peace and courage as we journey down this cancer road.  He has been faithful, and we have sensed His presence every step of the way.

Jesus in the ORAs I face the upcoming surgery on Monday, I know Jesus goes into the operating room with me, and that I am in His hands. Whatever the outcome, I am convinced it will be best for me, has the potential to bring about good things in others and most importantly can glorify God.  Joni Erickson Tada said, “Often God uses something bad to bring about something good.” Joni is a stunning picture of this.  Margaret just shared the story of Jim and Elizabeth Elliot a few nights ago, another wonderful example.  My prayer is that I would walk worthy…in Him and for Him.

A verse that has been a favorite of mine for many years is Psalm 61:2 where it says. “When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the Rock that is higher than I.” That Rock, Jesus, is our Anchor in this storm.  When the waters get rough and we begin to drift into worry and fear, He gently draws us back to the solid Rock, where we find strength for the moment, courage to face what’s ahead and that wonderful peace that passes all understanding.

So thank you for your prayers and many kindnesses.  We stand amazed, and we are grateful.  I know the Lord will bless you, as you are blessing us.

With much gratitude to God for you,

Love, Mary

My prayer requests:

  1. Praise for a good day and good visits from friends
  2. Praise for God’s Word that encourages and comforts
  3. An unspoken family request
  4. Prayer that the Word of Christ might “dwell in me richly” and that I might go directly there when fears sneak in

“The Lord is my strength and my shield. In Him my heart trusts, and I am helped.  My heart exalts, and with my song I give thanks to Him.” (Psalm 28:7)

When Unnatural Becomes Natural

This week I’m writing from Florida, where I’m lending a hand to daughter Linnea and her family of six. Though I bought my plane ticket last October, I had decided to cancel my trip, wanting to stay close to my sister Mary as her cancer drama unfolded.

Autumn, Micah, Isaac, SkylarBut she and Bervin wouldn’t hear of it. “Don’t call off your plans to help Linnea,” they said, ever-conscious of the needs of others. “You should go.” So here I am, 1600 miles from Mary, getting reacquainted with Skylar (5), Micah (4), Autumn (2) and Isaac (8 weeks). Despite non-stop action, my mind hasn’t been more than inches from Mary.

The other day I mentioned that to her. But ever-positive she said, “Enjoy all that youth down there!”

Last week when I asked if she was worn out after many of her adult children had been over for dinner she said, “It’s encouraging to be around their youthful energy!”

I admire her for her upbeat comments during a very down time. She could just as easily have said, “I wish I was young again, too” or “What I wouldn’t I give to have that kind of energy,” or “If only I was as healthy as they are.” But her positive comments give a glimpse into her intentional bright-side thinking.

???????????????????????????????When you’re born a natural worrier as Mary was, landing on life-positives and plugging them into the words you speak is no small effort. But as Mary’s example demonstrates, the more we work at what doesn’t come naturally, the more we succeed.

God asks all of us to do difficult things now and then. For example, he wants us to ditch unhealthy habits and establish healthy ones. When neither of those appeal to our stubborn wills, we rebel and say, “I can’t do that, Lord, because…” and follow that with lots of reasons why not. God sees that as an unwillingness to obey.

I’ve witnessed it repeatedly here in Florida. Linnea will say to Micah, “Two more minutes on the trampoline, and then it’s time to come in.”

???????????????????????????????“But Mommy!” he’ll say. “I didn’t have enough jumping yet! Skylar was bothering me! It’s not fair! I can’t come in! I have to do more jumping!”

Micah’s response to Linnea is much like ours to God. The only difference is we hide ours behind labels like “an expression of my opinion” or “a defense of my legitimate feelings.” The results are the same: “I won’t do it your way.”

Which is why I admire Mary so much. Years ago she made up her mind to look on life’s brighter side, putting away complaining and substituting gratitude instead. It was something God wanted her to do. After she’d worked hard at it for years, what was once unnatural became natural. And now it’s who she is.

???????????????????????????????Maybe that’s because whenever we willingly follow God’s instructions, he blessed us richly for it.

“Commit your actions to the Lord, and your plans will succeed.” (Proverbs 16:3)

Mary’s prayer requests:

  1. Peace for her children and that they’d turn to God’s Word for strength and comfort
  2. Praise for the flood of support and encouragement received through prayer, gifts, cards, calls, emails, visits.
  3. Thanks for Bervin who is faithfully staying beside Mary through all of this. For peace and courage for him.