In Need

Yesterday it poured rain, and as I often do during inclement weather, I “walked” Jack from the warm, dry, front seat of my car. He happily ran alongside, stopping to sniff and lift his leg here and there. Suddenly another car approached at a narrow spot on a hilly road, forcing both vehicles to jockey back and forth in an effort to pass.

Jack continued trotting ahead but doubled back when he saw I hadn’t followed. Then, just as I resumed driving, he ran between both cars, confused as to which vehicle was “his”. In my rear view mirror I saw him take off next to the other car but didn’t worry, knowing he’d eventually appear at home. Still, I decided to wait a few minutes where I was, just in case he came looking for me.

When he didn’t, I decided to make one loop around the high dune road, which had been his running direction, and if I didn’t find him, would head for the house. Driving at a crawl through sideways rain, I scanned the bushes and woods for Jack but didn’t see him. I did, however, see something interesting: Thelma.

Seven months ago my sister and I had a strange encounter with this 76 year old woman at the beach (“Giving Her All,” April 10, 2011). We’d never seen her before then but learned her name was Thelma, and apparently she earned bits of money tidying up yards and hauling away leaves in black garbage bags.

We looked for her after that day and watched all summer without success, but yesterday, when I least expected it, I found her.

At the top of a steep incline, she was trudging along dressed in a black garbage bag torn to double as a raincoat, using one corner of it as a hood. I pulled alongside her and rolled down the window. “Thelma! Want a ride?”

“Appreciate it,” she said, and without knowing who I was or even looking at me, she climbed right in. Pulling off her garbage bag, she stuffed it into a filthy grocery sack and said, “This weather’s no good for raking.”

“Where’re you headed?” I said.

“Home. I’m giving up for today.”

“Where’s home?” I said.

“Six miles. I’ll show you.”

“You mean you were going to walk 6 miles in this storm?”

“I do it all the time,” she said. “It’s good to keep moving.”

She was dressed in well-stained, insulated coveralls, a navy shirt, tan sweater and cranberry hoodie, all in  need of a wash.

“Where’re you going?” she said, looking at me for the first time.

“I’m trying to find my dog.”

“Oh, I love dogs,” she said, “and they love me.”

“Then you must be a very good person,” I said. “Dogs like good people.”

“That’s true,” she said. “I’ve had lots of dogs. What color is yours?”

“Black. We can look together.”

“We’ll find him,” she said.

(To be continued…)


“God will never forget the needy; the hope of the afflicted will never perish.” (Psalm 9:18)

Divine Strategizing

With age comes wisdom, and at 93, my friend Milton has an abundance of it. Mary, Tom and I are spending 5 days in California with 4 first cousins who hail from Pasadena, Santa Barbara, and Hesperia. In our travels between these dear ones, we had the privilege of spending this afternoon with Milton in Riverside, an hour’s drive inland from Los Angeles. Although he isn’t technically a relative, the two of us are related in the Lord.

Milton and I first became friends after I found myself enamored with his son at 19, well before Nate. Although that dating relationship went by the wayside, in the process I’d made a lifelong buddy of his father, and Milton and I have kept tabs on each other for 47 years.

Today is the second anniversary of Nate’s departure to heaven, and as the hours passed, the significance of November 3rd was continually on my mind. Milton understood. He’s endured the heartache of losing not one but two spouses, Margie to cancer and Eva to Alzheimer’s. Yet his servant-heart sought no credit for nursing both of them through years of difficult disease.

I asked Milton about the time between his marriages. “What made you decide to marry a second time?”

His words revealed his character. “Well,” he said, smiling broadly, “I look back on that decision and see that God was really the one who made it. He knew Eva would need a husband to help her through Alzheimer’s, and he figured I could do that.” Although it got severe toward the end when she no longer knew Milton or even accepted him as her husband, he was in it for the duration.

Today Milton said something sweet. “You know, God knew you needed to marry Nate, too.” And he was right. God knows what we need ahead of time and strategizes accordingly, laying the groundwork for the decisions we will one day make. Then, when the time comes, he’s ready for every situation and better yet, has made us ready as well.

God knew Milton’s wives would need a strong man to carry them through end-stage traumas, so he brought each couple together at the right time to make that work. And he knew I would need Nate’s stabilizing influence, so he put us into each other’s lives at the right moment to make that work, too.

Today as I thought about Nate’s death, I appreciated my friend Milton’s 93 years of wisdom in pointing out my need for him and how God brought us together. I also was reminded of God’s infinity-years of wisdom and the fact that he offers it freely to all of us as we make important decisions. Just as he guided Milton and me, he’s eager to plan for anyone else who wants to take advantage of the divine strategizing he offers.

”The Lord works out everything to its proper end.” (Proverbs 16:4a)

What Not to Wear

It was noon today before I remembered it was Halloween. I can’t say that was much of a loss, but I have to admit dressing up is fun once in a while, whether it’s for a costume or an evening out.

All of us dress up daily. If we didn’t, we’d be going around naked. We give thought to putting an outfit together and do our best to look good. Of course the emphasis is on our exterior, while the interior often gets ignored.

Scripture instructs us to “put on” an outfit described by God, one that will miraculously equip us to stand our ground against evil. The pieces of this invisible outfit are truth, righteousness, the Gospel, salvation and his word. Although these can’t be seen in a mirror, the results of wearing them leave positive impressions on those around us.

For all of us, what you see is not usually what you get. That’s because we can wear one thing on the outside and another on the inside. Sadly, they can be polar opposites. We can fool almost everyone about who we really are.

Anyone, that is, except God, who can never be fooled.

Stacy London and Clinton Kelly are pros at telling people “What Not to Wear.” They have a TV program by that name, offering fashion makeovers to those they feel don’t know how to look their best. Although they’re good at putting flattering outfits together, their counsel stops at their 360 degree mirror.

God, on the other hand, could host a program telling people what not to wear on the inside. Actually, he doesn’t need a show, since he’s already detailed his advice in the Bible. Internal fashion doesn’t change with the seasons or years. It works century to century.

His first bit of counsel is that we are not to worry about external fashion but grow in faith that he’ll give us everything we need, in the clothing category and all others. Being able to trust him for those externals is a sure sign our internals are looking good, too.

It wears well if we meditate on the truth of his Word and pour out gratitude for our salvation. He also tells us we’re to mimic his garment of righteousness and be grateful for the spiritual gifts he’s given us. And for accessories he says, “Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” (Colossians 3:12)

As far as wardrobes go, Stacy and Clinton’s pricey fashion purchases will one day wear out and need replacing, but God’s wardrobe is free of charge and lasts forever. And once we put on his internal outfit, we won’t stress as easily about the one we’re wearing on the outside.

“The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)