I feel like celebrating!

With four boys in the family, our driveway saw a steady stream of interesting and needy vehicles come and go. Each first-car was purchased with only hundreds of dollars rather than thousands and was sometimes held together with tape, wire and bungee cords.

By the time our younger girls needed wheels, their brothers were experienced bargain-hunters and facilitated the purchase of Louisa’s sky-blue Honda Accord, which she later sold to Birgitta. Despite the car being 13 years old, the boys assured the girls it was in its prime with “only” 145,000 miles, good for 200,000 more.

The little Honda has banked 72,000 toward those 200,000 without an issue until recently when the hood latch let go on the highway, flinging the hood up over the windshield with such force it shattered all the glass, bent the window frame and cracked the roof. (“In Sync with God,” June 7, 2011)

Because the incident occurred on a superhighway, police insisted the car be towed off the premises within 20 minutes. It was a high pressure situation during which Birgitta was traumatized, and I was missing Nate’s important input.

Towed to a body shop, the Accord appeared to be damaged beyond its humble value, so we let it go in exchange for tow fees and storage charges. But once I was back in Michigan, Klaus said, “Mom, you made the wrong call. The engine was still good.”

He arranged to have it free-towed 100 miles to Michigan where his buddy fixed it for under $400. It isn’t perfect but is quite acceptable. Then came the fun part: surprising Birgitta, which occurred this weekend.

As we arrived home well after midnight I said, “Remember the surprise I said you were getting? Well, there it is.”

“Where?” she said, looking around inside my car.

“Out the front window,” I said, watching her eyes squint in the dark. When she recognized her blue car, she covered her mouth with her hand, spit out a few words in an attempt to say what she was thinking, and squealed with delight. “My car! Is it my car? Is it still broken? Is it fixed?”

It was a spectacular surprise, thanks to Klaus, better than the best 4th of July fireworks show. Birgitta’s appreciation for her wheels has sky-rocketed, because what once was gone has been restored.

The whole thing reminds me of the three biblical stories Jesus told, one after the other, about restoration: the lost sheep, lost coin and lost son. (Luke 15) In each case the “find” generated a celebration. But Jesus made it clear he’d only told those stories to demonstrate one thing: that jubilant feeling of finding what was lost is exactly his feeling when someone repents of sin and comes to salvation.

After watching Birgitta get her car back, we know how that feels. And it feels really good!

“In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” (Luke 15:10)

Last Chance?

The other day I drove past a sad scene. A restaurant that had once been crowded with hungry guests and lively with animated conversation had shut down. Weeds had found their way through sidewalk cracks and around the edges of the building, some reaching above window sills. The neglect was evident.

My guess is the restaurant hadn’t been closed for too long. Abandoned buildings fall into quick disrepair and are a bulky example of “use it or lose it.”

That’s true for human bodies, too. Consider a person who breaks an arm. When the cast is removed after 6 weeks, muscles seem non-existent and the limb looks shrunken, abnormal, non-functional. Without using it, we lose it.

And what about the languages we learn in high school and college? At one point we know 8000 vocabulary words and can speak in simple sentences. Then we abandon the language lab and the vocab cards, and before long, the language slips away, too.

What about people? I think of the strong bonds linking them together and how they quickly become fragile if neglected. Without loving contact between husband and wife, parent and child, friend and friend, the attachment diminishes and gradually the relationship fizzles.

Is this true in the spiritual realm, too? God promised never to leave us, but what if we leave him? Is it possible to lose this critical relationship by not using it? I’m not referring to the debate about whether or not we can lose our salvation but about the ongoing connection we’ve been invited to have with the Lord after he saves our souls. Do we keep it fresh and current? Are we up to date with him?

And the more important question is, if we’re not caring for that relationship, how difficult does it become to regain it? Is it as hard as rebuilding biceps? Or learning vocabulary? Or repairing a marriage?

What if it’s more difficult still? Good questions for us might be, “If Christ returned today, would I be happy with the way our relationship stands? Am I ready for him? Or can I improve my end of things? Without using what he’s given me, am I losing out on what could be a fabulous union?”

A neglected building can be sold, painted, cleaned and landscaped. A new restaurant can move in. Patrons can come. It’s a big job, but each loss can be recouped.

But if Jesus comes tomorrow, we’ll never have another chance to regain what we lost during our time on earth.

“You must be ready, for the Son of Man is coming at an hour you do not expect.” (Matthew 24:44)

A Perfect Match

I love the beach 365 days a year but especially on a day like today: 75 degrees, a light breeze, whitecaps and blasting sunshine.

While working from an old but comfy beach chair, God brought a distant memory to mind. Mom and I were walking together on the same stretch of sand, looking up at the dunes topped with greenery. It was a day like today except that it was 1955. The sky was then (just like today) a perfect example of “sky-blue.”

Without realizing it, Mom and I were thinking the same thing. “People say blue and green don’t go together,” she said. “But look what happens when God does it.”

If I’d known how to properly use the word “Amen” as a 10 year old, I would have. As it was, Mom planted one of those valuable line-on-line nuggets of wisdom in my young heart, and God’s Spirit caused it to take root. In the years since then, those roots have nourished an important idea:

God can do what people can’t.

It’s easy to apply that logic when mother and child are enjoying the scenery, but does it pertain to the monster-size crises of adulthood?

 

Examples abound:

  • An addict surrenders to a “higher power” and learns his name is Jesus, committing to sobriety and spreading that good news.
  • An abandoned child comes to Christ and grows up to lead a ministry dedicated to rescuing children from abuse.
  • An imprisoned criminal becomes a Christian, and hatred morphs into love.

These are real-life examples of people I know. In each case God combined two “colors” that wouldn’t rationally “go together,” and the results were spectacular:

  • Addiction/sobriety
  • Abandonment/rescue
  • Criminal behavior/loving actions.

So, what about the challenge of widowhood? The trouble-list is long: loneliness, fear, separation, sadness, and unwelcome change. What unlikely “color combinations” might God make available?

As we look at our list, we already know:

  • Loneliness/companionship
  • Fear/safety
  • Separation/togetherness
  • Sadness/joy
  • Change/assistance

The trick is to open ourselves to these out-of-the-ordinary combos, to actively look for them. Before our husbands died, loneliness wasn’t a problem; we had their companionship. If we were afraid, they protected us. We were together, and it was joyful. But now our men are gone and can no longer be these things for us.

And so we look to God. And what we see is his gentle, steady bringing of the things we miss. He provides the positive counter-balance to every negative, meets our needs and brings a “green” to enhance every “blue”.

The alternative is to refuse his help, which leaves us stuck in the misery of loneliness, fear, separation and sadness. That would be like Mom and me walking home from the beach with our eyes on the asphalt.

“My God shall supply all your need…” (Philippians 4:19)