Young Love (#36)

As summer approached, Nate and I began talking about the thrilling changes ahead, especially the when-and-where of our engagement, and a job for me downstate.

staying-with-familyAfter I visited him in Champaign during the teacher strike, he moved out of his dorm, then planned to come north to my parents’ house to spend a week with our family. Though I would have to work, we’d be together every day… and my parents would get to know him better. Nate also had high hopes he’d get to have “the talk” with Dad.

May 25, 1969 – Dear Nate. I took my Sunday school girls on a picnic today, but since it was freezing, we held it in the apartment living room. This group of 10-year-olds can tear up a place in no time! But then there’s you… the most thoughtful, considerate person I’ve ever known, and I thank the Lord every chance I get for letting me know you – and MARRY you! If you could hear all the colossal things I tell my friends about you, you’d hire me as your publicity manager.

May 26, 1969 – Dearest Meg. Thank you for your patience, faith, help, and love. And your Christian example. Thank you for your prayers. The Lord’s help will take care of us forever. What a reassuring thought! Last night I turned out the light, got into bed and was half asleep when my hand hit something under the pillow. I flipped on the light and saw your note, reading it as I ate the candy kiss. The note, with its love, thanks, and promise of freedom was the best thing I could have read on a late Sunday night.

May 28, 1969 – Dear Nate. I can’t believe you’re done with school for a while and will be walking through my apartment door soon… for 8 days! I’ve been thinking of all we can do while you’re here: dinners with friends, a faculty party with my fellow-teachers, a Sunday’s-worth of activities, double-dates with other couples, dinner and cards with Mary and Bervin, mid-week prayer meeting, time with my folks, and… ring-shopping!

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May 29, 1969 – Dearest Meg. I am so fortunate to have the love of Meg Johnson. I can’t wait to be with you again! Meanwhile, I continue to pack my clothes and books, and pay bills here. I love you very, very much.

May 30, 1969 – Dear Nate. When you are here for those 8 glorious days, we’ll create enough ultra-pleasant memories to get you all the way through Army camp in good shape. Something sad happened today. I got the official word that little Nancy, the Downs girl in my class, has to transfer out and attend a state placement somewhere else in the fall. It’s so sad. The worst, though, will be getting her mother to accept it. So far she’s refused to admit Nancy has any problems. I have to call her today and set up a conference for her with the principal and me. So hard. If you and I should ever have a Downs child, it would be a big adjustment. I send you all my love, Your Meg

From my journal, the evening before Nate arrived in Chicago:

happyIt’s amazing how much of my previous confusion has ironed out and become ordered thoughts. Nate and I have spent much of the month of May together, and he’s coming to Chicago for 8 gorgeous days before leaving for the Army – for 6 weeks. ALL my reservations are gone, including my nervousness over being able to leave (my old boyfriend) permanently in the past. I haven’t seen him in 2 months, and though I think of him, I no longer miss him in “that way.”

 

“Love rejoices in the truth.” (1 Corinthians 13:6)

Young Love (#32)

At this point, Nate and I spent much of our communication on the logistics of relocating me to Champaign, clearing the way to marry during the school year.

Details were being discussed without the benefit of input from parents, and our planned changes were beginning to stockpile. So Nate and I talked often about how best to win their approval without opposition to our timing.

dearest-megMay 16, 1969 – Dearest Meg. I love you. Your idea of an organized outline to your folks at your apartment during dinner is very good. After finals I can also talk with them in detail re: engagement, wedding, Army, law, and finances. I like your idea of me getting a summer job in Chicago, but with 6 weeks of Army camp, I wouldn’t be able to start until too late. I do realize that if you teach in Champaign in the fall, this summer will be your last time living near home. Such thoughts are very considerate of your parents and very much like you, sweet Meg.

May 16, 1969 – Dear Nate. Do you remember little JoAnn, one of my kindergarteners? For show and tell today, she brought her “plastic church beads.” She explained well to the class: “Here’s how they work,” she said. “You count them like this, 1… 2… 3… 4… You count them in the back row at church, but you have to whisper or you’ll mix up all the other people on their numbers.” Aren’t kids wonderful?

May 16, 1969 – Dearest Meg. I pray for us every day and feel sure the Lord is guiding both of us in honest love. As our relationship is maturing, I feel certain Christ is at the center of our two lives.

After Nate’s day-long visit to Chicago/Wilmette:

May 18, 1969 – Dearest Meg. My day with you yesterday was the greatest yet! Your wholesomeness and purity and faith in Christ stir me to act and think in the highest ways to be worthy of you. We have become committed to each other, and the practical matters are working out for themselves. All things are possible, because of our faith.

lots-of-loveMay 18, 1969 – Dear Nate. Our day together was really lots of fun. Wow! Life with you will be joyful! And my parents were glad to see us. I’m worrying about Dad coming around to our new plans. I don’t think there will be any friction, because he’s sensible and will ask any questions he has. But I hope to talk with him this week. I’ll put the pressure on for him or both of them to stop at my apartment soon.

May 18, 1969 – Dearest Meg. You know, I always feel at ease when I’m with your parents. I like them very much and respect them for the life they lead. I really admire your father for living in Christian responsibility with strength and courage in this business world. In one of my prayers I’m asking God for that kind of strength and sensitivity. It’s easy to see how your parents raised such a fine daughter as Meg. I love you!

zooMay 18, 1969 – Dear Nate. I’m still loving the memory of our day together. It was cool that we got to enjoy the zoo and conservatory without the noise and rush of crowds. It was quiet peace to be with each other. And then at the picnic, we got to chat with 2 pastors and several of my friends as they met you. And they approved! I was so proud. And then we got to have that meaningful prayer time together, renewing our commitment to Christ. I felt so open and honest with the Lord as we both talked to Him.

“Look at those who are honest and good, for a wonderful future awaits those who love peace.” (Psalm 37:37)

Young Love (#30)

Nate’s and my letters picked up in number, coming and going 2-3 a day. It seemed that each time we had an idea to share, we wrote it down and mailed it out. Our correspondence was full of excitement about our future together, especially the tantalizing prospect of living near each other, at long last.

more-goodbyesWhenever possible, we traveled across the 156 miles between us for face-time the old fashioned way, sometimes driving, sometimes riding the train. In one letter Nate detailed a variety of activities we might participate in as newlyweds, his way of suggesting a secular/religious balance.

May 11, 1969 – Dearest Meg. We can attend the secular social events of the Junior Bar Association, Phi Delta Phi (my law fraternity), and church and Sunday school for the necessary religious involvement. We can teach Sunday school to share in Christ’s work on earth. We can make new friends together, friends who never knew us as single people.

May 11, 1969 – Dear Nate. I can’t write a long letter right now. I’ve yet to have my devotions and prayer time, and it’s nearly 1:00 AM. A big thunderstorm has suddenly hit, and I wish you were here so we could snuggle together with our eyes closed, listening to the storm. Some day…

sun-sch-classMay 12, 1969 – Dear Nate. The Sunday school superintendent where I’ve been teaching 10-year-old girls for 2 years [left] is pressuring me about my inconsistent attendance, even though I provide a qualified sub when I’m gone (visiting you). I’ve started asking around for someone who’s willing to take over my class permanently. With our rapidly changing future, I want to be severed from my Chicago responsibilities when events start popping!

May 12, 1969 – Dearest Meg. If we marry in January, we wouldn’t be in financial hardship, but it wouldn’t be plush. But this financial closeness would give us tremendous unity of spirit. Monetary austerity forces people to stop thinking about the non-essentials (cars, clothes, etc.) to concentrate on more important commitments.

May 12, 1969 – Dear Nate. Thank you for a wonderful phone conversation this afternoon. I could talk to you forever, if only it weren’t so expensive. We are made for each other. I’m just thrilled that you’re coming to Chicago this weekend! I’ve already told lots of people at the church College and Career Class about “my guy” coming to the picnic, so don’t be surprised when they stare at you, ooogle-eyed over handsome you, as they get to know how wonderful you are! I want all my friends to grow to love you… and my family, too.

p-sMay 12, 1969 – Dearest Meg. This summer, after Army camp (6 weeks), I want to line up a part-time job for the coming year. I’ll look into claims adjusting for an auto insurance company or bill collecting for a bank. You get the idea. After that, we’d have one semester and the bar exam to go, then the Army, 2-4 years depending on the type of commission I get. Also I can start looking into apartment rents. And most importantly I can be with Meg in the hot sun of the tennis courts and at the municipal pool in Urbana. I love you very, very much.

May 13, 1969 – Dear Nate. One day next week I’m having my folks to the apartment for dinner, and I plan to present an organized outline of the things you and I have decided. They tell me they are anxious to know. Thank you for being the great consistent person you are and will always be. Good night…. Love, Meg

“Let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him.” (1 Corinthians 7:17)