Rough Patches

All of us have been driving when suddenly a torn patch of road shakes the car and has us swerving to avoid potholes. The road of life can be like that, too, presenting us with sudden rough patches in finances, marriages, friendships, or our spiritual lives. But if we take our time, if we slow down enough to carefully navigate around the cracks and dips, we can avoid potholes-worth of problems.

God is linked into this idea, too, knowing that when we calm our pace, we’ll hear him better. And when we hear him better, we’ll learn how to avoid trouble.

All of us remember Mr. Rogers of public television fame. He was popular with children because he moved at a slow speed, waiting for them to catch up if necessary. Although adults sometimes made fun of his unhurried pace, truth be told they appreciated him for it, too.

I recall one evening on Johnny Carson’s Tonight Show when Fred Rogers was a guest. At the beginning of the interview, Johnny asked questions tongue-in-cheek, winking at the audience. When he asked Mr. Rogers to sing one of his original songs, Fred looked Johnny straight in the eye and without a trace of hurry sang:

“It’s you I like–
Every part of you,
Your skin, your eyes, your feelings
Whether old or new.
I hope that you’ll remember
Even when you’re feeling blue
That it’s you I like…”

By the end, Johnny was wiping away a tear of emotion after having genuinely absorbed the sincere message of the song. Mr. Rogers’ calculated singing had slowed Johnny down long enough to hear the meaningful message.

What an effective illustration of our communication with God. So often we come into his presence flustered and rushed, hoping to have a quick, economical session with him. I’ve even initiated prayer times by asking God to make our few moments “efficient.” But hurried communication with the Almighty isn’t good communication, and unless we approach God like Mr. Rogers approached Johnny Carson, slowly and deliberately, we can’t expect much in return.

When we slow down enough to appreciate and adore him, good things will happen. If our minds are already on the next event, not much of significance will occur. So how do we bring ourselves to a screeching halt in a high-speed world? Even if we do it bodily, how can we keep our brains from buzzing?

We do it the same way we avoid highway potholes: by focusing on the damage we’ll cause if we blast into them, which then motivates us to slow down enough to see and avoid them. Likewise, if we ponder the damage to our spiritual lives as we race in and out of God’s presence, we’ll slow ourselves down enough to hear him.

And it’ll be then that he’ll let us know how to avoid all the rough patches life’s road has to offer.
“Do not be in a hurry to leave the king’s presence.” (Ecclesiastes 8:3)

 

Don’t worry. Be happy.

My grandson Nicholas, a new 3 year old, has recently finished potty training and is now enjoying the perks of no more nappy changes, along with the delight of wearing picture underwear.

Katy and Hans motivated him by using a reward chart with happy-face stickers for each success. Taped above the toilet, those lengthening lines of stickers gave Nick encouragement each time he successfully used the toilet.

When we were 3, a happy-face sticker was all we needed to make us happy. As we grew older, we needed bigger rewards like trips to the ice cream store, allowances, a day at the beach, or sleep-overs. Eventually we needed paychecks, new cars, vacation getaways.

Is it ok to seek happiness?

Scripture is dotted with quite a few happy faces. Ecclesiastes says, “I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.” (3:12-13)

We see that it’s ok to be happy, as long as we recognize it as God’s gift. When we begin feeling entitled to it, God will surely withdraw it. Our being happy isn’t his undercard. He’d rather see us obeying his instructions, studying his Word, drawing closer to him, submitting to his will.

But most of us just want to be happy. Sometimes it comes to us briefly but then disappears, making us angry. So what should we do? Are we supposed to find contentment in un-happiness?

Another Ecclesiastes passage provides the answer: “When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider this: God has made the one as well as the other.” (7:14) God wants us to connect happiness and sadness to him, knowing there are important purposes in both.

This morning I struggled in prayer for more than 90 minutes over some exceptionally difficult issues, pouring out my longings one after another. I ended by expressing frustration to God for his lack of action on my requests after so many years of praying. And I was quite unhappy!

He quickly chided me, reminding me (in my thoughts) that happiness without end isn’t scheduled till heaven. Claiming it now is getting the cart before the horse.

Later, in my Scripture reading, he said the same thing in a different way: “Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise.” (James 5:13) In other words, even when he gives a bit of happiness, the point of it isn’t to please us but to motivate us to praise him. When happiness comes, we’re not to hold onto it but are to give it right back to him.

And when we do that, we get something far better than our own happy faces: the happy face of our Lord.

“May the righteous be glad and rejoice before God; may they be happy and joyful.” (Psalm 68:3)

Wait on Weight

Today Birgitta and I took Jack to the vet for treatment of what we thought might be an ear infection. We were right, and we left the office with 4 prescriptions to cure him. But that wasn’t all.

While we were there, our well-padded dog had to get on the scale, and the news wasn’t good. His Kibbles ‘n Bits have been agreeing with him a little too much, and since his last weigh-in, he’s put on 9 new pounds. His grand total is a smidgen below 90, and the doctor recommended a weight of 70, “at the most.”

The lethargy we’ve noticed lately in Jack might be unrelated to ear troubles (as we thought) and more a result of extra girth. The truth is he won’t live as long, feel as good, or enjoy life as much if he holds onto those 20 bonus pounds.

I’ve never been sure how much we should feed Jack, and we’ve been using a plastic scoop-cup to guesstimate his dinner each day. Today we brought the cup with us, for some professional guidance.

“Do you fill it to the brim?” the vet said.

“Yes,” I said.

“Do you know how many cups are in this container?”

“About three,” I said.

“Let’s find out,” he said.

It turns out Jack has been getting nearly twice as much food as he needs. As they say, my bad. Tomorrow we officially begin his weight loss program, though we plan to do the dinnertime-downscale just a bit at a time.

It’s hard to say “no” to Jack’s pleading brown eyes. He demands virtually nothing from us and gives back a great deal. Depriving him of food, his #1 crave, seems mean, yet all those extra pounds are hurting him. I hope we can discipline ourselves to stick with it, and I hope he can get leaner.

None of us likes to be kept away from the things we crave. All we have to do is check bookstore shelves to know most of us aren’t good at denying ourselves, and it isn’t just food. We need help breaking the bonds of bad habits in all categories, anything we do that’s hurting us or those around us.

Jack’s extra weight came to him one unnoticeable ounce at a time, and that’s how all habits begin, with steady repetition of one small behavior. The encouraging thing is that good habits are also formed this way. Our cravings can be good ones, the kinds we can freely satisfy. How can we tell the difference? If our craving moves us closer to God rather than farther away, we can go for it.

My personal opinion is that Jack couldn’t get any more handsome, but who knows what a 20 pound drop might do for him.

“They willfully put God to the test by demanding the food they craved.” (Psalm 78:18)