The Best Resolution

The year 2014 is in the record books. Whether we used those 365 days wisely or foolishly, the tale’s been told.

At my age, the awareness of time’s passing becomes acute. It no longer seems to go on forever, and the word “fleeting” applies more often. We do what we can to hold onto important moments and special people.

But “holding on” isn’t wisdom. It isn’t even possible. A much wiser plan is to receive what we’re given as the days go by and to be content with that. But how?

Paul of the Bible admitted that contentment didn’t come naturally to him and that he had to learn it. He said, “I have learned to be content.” So how did he do it?

ContentmentIn the same passage he answers our question. The first step is to acknowledge our need for God to supply the ability to do it. (Philippians 4:19) God has a rich storehouse of “can-do” and is willing to share it with those who ask. Second, Paul says, “When I’m tempted to sink into negativity, I can find fresh strength and determination by asking God for strength to continue on.” (v. 13)

In other words, we can’t just say, ”My New Year’s resolution is to be content, no matter what.” That would stick for about 10 minutes.

Paul’s technique is to focus not on how we feel but on who Christ is and what he can do. We’re to count our blessings and then (very important) link them to the One who’s responsible for giving them. That should then cause us to rejoice in our relationship with him, which leads to contentment.

I have a hunch much of our natural discontent is linked to control issues. Most of us know that global fame, massive wealth, or any other “biggie” won’t bring contentment, and so we don’t waste time wishing for those. But we’re champions at wanting something a bit different than what we got.

We say, “Yes, Lord, I’m willing to live this particular life, but could we make a few changes first?” Then we go about tweaking what God has already put in place for us. In other words, we may not want more or better, but we often want different.

It might be a good idea this year to concentrate on receiving the life we’ve been given by asking God for enough of his grace to live in and through it well. (v. 23) When we do that, contentment is bound to follow.

“Let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him.” (1 Corinthians 7:17)

Praising and praying with Mary

I haven’t felt this good in a long time, and regardless of what’s ahead, I’m praising God for the safe, festive Christmas and New Years we’ve just shared as a family.

 

Bit by Bit

Most of us think of God as lofty, mysterious, and grand. He’s definitely all of that but is also detail-oriented and surprisingly practical. I’ve often witnessed this and saw it again today.

Mark ZuckerbergWhile waiting in my dentist’s office this morning, I sifted through a stack of reading material and settled on this week’s TIME magazine. The cover story was about Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg, one of the world’s wealthiest individuals. He’s a fascinating guy for several reasons: (1) he’s only 30; (2) he’s brainy; (3) he’s a tech-guy but loves people; (4) and he hasn’t let mega-money change him.

As I read the article, I was searching for personal information, like the seed-reason why he’s been so successful. Then I read, “Zuckerberg is a great one for breaking down messy, wonky problems into manageable chunks.” That sounds like wisdom, and I filed it for later.

Before I finished the article, the dental hygienist was calling my name. As she clipped on my paper bib I asked her about the possibility of whitening my teeth, so while she cleaned, she gave me a short course in bleaching. But the subject changed when she found several “trouble-spots” and told me that the dentist, Dr. Matt, better take a look. After he did, I realized how our practical God had prepared me (by way of Mark Zuckerberg’s statement) for what I was about to hear.

Happy toothIt turns out I’m going to need some major mouth work: cavities (plural), bridges (plural), and implants (plural). “Oh dear,” I said to Dr. Matt. “This sounds like a major ordeal involving lots of time and big buckaroos.”

“Oh it won’t be so bad,” he said. “Just make one appointment on your way out, and we’ll take it in small steps.”

That sounded an awful lot like a “messy, wonky problem tackled in small chunks.”

This kind of thinking isn’t original with Dr. Matt, though, or even Mark Zuckerberg, since God promoted it first in the Bible. He wants us to conquer our sins one at a time, study Scripture one verse at a time, and communicate with him one prayer at a time. And over the long haul, our lives will be utterly revolutionized.

After Dr. Matt left and the hygienist was lowering the dental chair I said, “And to think I’d been worried about bleaching my teeth.”

She laughed and said, “I guess it’s silly to paint the porch when the house is on fire.”

But if Mark Zuckerberg had been standing there he would have said, “Don’t worry. Just put out the fire one water-bucket at a time.”

My God will supply every need of yours.” (Philippians 4:19)

Praising and Praying with Mary

Continue to pray for wisdom about the feeding tube, since the phone consultation today wasn’t good enough to make any decisions. Pray for wise conclusions at tomorrow’s appointment.

Happy Birthday, Mary!

Party timeToday my sister turns 71, and it’s tempting to wish we were back last year at this same time. None of us knew then about the deadly cancer that was just around the corner, and we celebrated her 70th with the assumption her life would continue for many years, maybe even decades. After all, Dad and Mom both lived to 92, so why shouldn’t she?

But this year, short of the Lord’s miraculous intervention, a different scenario is unfolding for Mary. Whatever her future looks like, though, it’s really a future that belongs to God, because decades ago Mary handed over the reins of her life to him. That’s the one-and-only reason she can nod and say, “It’s ok by me, Lord.”

Actually it’s more than just ok. Mary has let God do the choosing for her all the way along (not just with cancer but with everything), so she’s fully on board. If God flat-out gave her a choice, she might prefer to go the distance like Mom and Dad, but at this point all indications are he’s got something else in mind for her.

This seismic shift has been a challenge to accept, and those of us around her have had a harder time with it than she has, proof that she has totally abandoned herself to her heavenly Father’s will.

IMG_4973Mary was a compliant child, a person who loved to please. That character trait has continued through her life, first wanting to please her earthly father, then her heavenly Father. The key has been trusting them both wholeheartedly, sincerely believing that their ideas, first her father’s, then her Father’s, were always the best ones, whether painful or painless. And when we’re sure something is for the best, it’s easier to accept.

Several of Mary and Bervin’s children and grandchildren came to town to make this birthday a very special one with a swimming party, dinner out, gifts, and lots of memory-making.

But as always, Mary’s main concern on her birthday was that they all had a good time.

“The Lord leads with unfailing love and faithfulness all who keep his covenant and obey his demands.” (Psalm 25:10)

Praising and Praying with Mary

  1. Thanks be to God for a very happy day receiving birthday phone calls and texts from loved ones, and spending time celebrating with family.
  2. Please pray that my energy levels will be high enough to enjoy all the upcoming holiday fun.