Young Love (#35)

one-kindergarten-classAs Chicago teachers began their historic strike, I walked the picket line with fellow faculty members but mourned over lost time with my kindergarten children. I loved teaching them and couldn’t wait to see them each day, so as I circled the school, I wondered who was caring for them. Concerning teacher contracts, for all practical purposes I had mentally made the move to downstate Illinois and already saw myself teaching elsewhere.

May 22, 1969 – Dear Nate. The teacher strike has been nothing but verbal whippings and tongue-thrashings all day. I’m sick of hearing everyone screaming without listening to the words of anyone else. I’d quit, but if we do get to go back to work, I’ll need the money. Besides, I’ll need a good recommendation from our principal. Last night Mom and Dad came to my apartment after I got home from my ed class. Mary and Bervin also came, along with Aunt Agnes and Aunt Helen. We had tea and warm rolls at 10:00 and talked till 11:00, but it didn’t work out to tell them about our plans. I did arrange to talk at their house in Wilmette tomorrow evening. I’m nervous, but am anxious to let them know.

May 22, 1969 – Dearest Meg. The head resident has praised my work with my 72 men this last year. He said he would recommend me for one of the head residencies next year, which would be good for us if I got one, since they are paid positions. But there are many others competing for very few slots.

May 23, 1969 – Dear Nate. I finally met privately with Dad and told him all about our intention to get engaged this summer and marry in January… or sooner, if we could work it out, like September. The two of us talked for 4 hours, hashing out the details and getting everything above board. He asked me lots of questions. On the way back to my apartment, I felt like taking the Corvette up over 100 mph, because the bottom line is that Dad approves! He feels we might be rushing to marry in January, but with time, he’ll come around. So, the stage is set for you to talk with Dad or with Mom, too, if you want. I’m filled with joyful expectation!

May 23, 1969 – Dearest Meg. (As you can tell from the typing in this letter, I’m using a vintage typewriter, 1958.) In spite of finals, I’ve tried to write you every day, because I feel so close to you while I write. I think of you all the time and love you very much.

May 23, 1969 – Dear Nate. I love you with all of me! Often I feel I’ll burst if I don’t get to see you soon! I’m so glad I will… (see you soon, not burst). I’m praying for your finals, for the calmness and presence of mind you need.

picnic-basketMay 25, 1969 – Dearest Meg. Thank you for coming to see me while the teachers continued the strike! Being with you for two days was fabulous! It was depressing when you had to leave. But the picnic at Allerton was great; Meg and barbecued chicken! I’ll see you next week – future wife, glamour girl, future mother, Christian woman – and I’ll have a talk with your father. It’s important that I talk to him first, before your mother.

“Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.” (James 4:10)

Young Love (#34)

Chicago teachers, tired of overcrowded classrooms and not enough pay, contemplated a strike on May 22 – first one ever. With 19,000 teachers involved, I had no idea what the ramifications would be, but knew I couldn’t cross a picket line to teach (which is what I felt like doing). I also knew I wouldn’t be paid for any strike days… a big loss, since I had moving and marriage on my mind.

on-strikeMay 20, 1969 – Dear Nate. The teachers in Chicago can’t seem to settle on a contract. They’re not even close. We’re scheduled to go on strike this Thursday if there’s no eleventh-hour settlement. I have bad news about teaching in your area in the fall, too. My applications won’t be considered without state certifi- cation credentials accompanying my request for a job. Apparently there’s no such thing as a provisional certificate down there, like there has been here. But I’m not going to let it get me down.

May 20, 1969 – Dearest Meg. Next up on my finals is Administrative Law, Wednesday at 1:00, for 4 hours. Wish me luck. Studying for finals goes well except when I am pleasantly distracted with thoughts of the beautiful soul and body of Meg, my betrothed. I love her so much and console myself that in one short busy week, I will be in her arms again. I love you.

May 21, 1969 – Dear Nate. I’m going to keep working on getting my transcripts together and getting evaluated at the Board of Ed. My friend says I’ll have to take the state Constitution test, too. There seem to be so many snags! Well, one step at a time. The joy of being married to you wipes out all the negatives.

May 21, 1969 – Dearest Meg. A quick note on an exam day….  I love you! The teaching deal will work out. Just keep sending in your records. We can try some small towns around here if the university school districts give us a complete turn-down. Thank you for your call late last night. You voice gave me the strength to keep studying until late.

May 21, 1960 – Dear Nate. I about jumped out of my chair with excitement when I read the letter that started with, “To my future wife.” The Lord is letting us be so lucky! I do love Him. (Not just for that, of course.) Talking with you on the telephone tonight was as close to being together as we can get, and it was very meaningful, even after we hung up. Even then, you are closer in conversation and thought. I love you!

just-dottyMay 21, 1969 – Dearest Meg. I think of you constantly, miss you terribly, and, frankly, love you insanely. After spending time with you, I almost worship the ground you walk on. When you are home with me each evening, I know I’ll study law more eagerly. In fact, I expect my successes to abound in all fields when I am comforted by you as my wife. You are such a fabulous asset: a wholesome, creative, beautiful, Christian woman. I love you!

May 21, 1969 – Dear Nate. Remember the youth pastor you met at the picnic last weekend? I saw him at church tonight and he commented again how “sharp” he thought you were. He asked if we were “serious.” I smiled with lights in my eyes and said, “Just about.” I want to bring all this on gradually to people, mostly to give my parents time to absorb it before everyone else knows.

May 22, 1969 – Dearest Meg, my Future Wife. I spent the morning writing notes for the Constitutional Law final; it’s going fine. The exam yesterday was fair and comprehensive. I’m sure I did reasonably well. Let me know about the strike. Don’t worry. The Lord is helping us. I thank Him every day for His guidance. When I think of the married life we will lead because of Him, I become so excited I can’t think of anything else for quite a while.

“Where two… are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” (Matthew 18:20)

Young Love (#31)

Although Nate and I were both set on marrying in January of 1970 rather than waiting till the summer, our 4 parents knew nothing of our plans. They hadn’t even met each other. We knew they’d object to our timing, so putting off the conversation was the path of least resistance, and we went with that.

mary-bervinMary and Bervin had dated for two years, both local to Chicago, and our parents knew Bervin well by the time he gave Mary a ring. Their engagement lasted a full year, and with that timing they had set a family precedent we weren’t planning to follow.

But first-off was to introduce Nate to my friends at a church-sponsored gathering, coupled with additional time spent with my folks. It was important that everybody get to know him better.

May 13, 1969 – Dearest Meg. I love you and am praying for the answer to the “when” of our marriage. I see many advantages of a January wedding, though it means a short wedding trip. I think of you so often it’s as though we were living together every minute. You are the perfect wife for me. I will make many sacrifices for you and will work very hard. I love you and want to please you.

May 14, 1969 – Dearest Meg. Thank you so very much for the fabulous phone call this afternoon. I love to talk with you and can’t wait till Saturday. I’ll study harder all week knowing it’s coming. I love the idea of you, the picnic, meeting Pastor Sweeting, and private prayer time with you. I pray every night for us, for our decisions and our relationship, asking each time that we follow His plan for us and surrender our lives to His will. I’m thinking of how beautiful you were the last time you came to Champaign, sitting in the sun as it came through the opaque windows. That suntanned face. Our walk down the path to the car. The ride to town, and church the next morning. Ah, I want a lifetime and an eternity of that!

May 14, 1969 – Dear Nate. I’m very excited about you coming on Saturday! Please ask permission to be released from overnight dorm duty to stay with my folks one night, ok? I would love that more than anything. We could get so much more out of your visit if you didn’t have to leave on the 9 PM train. I promise to let you study some.

teaberryMay 14, 1969 – Dearest Meg. Your calls are great. Hearing your voice is fabulous. We just must get married in January, engaged in July, and choose your ring in June! We’ll never be apart again! Thanks for the Teaberry gum, but I would rather smell Teaberry on your breath in a kiss.

May 14, 1969 – Today my team teacher was in a very low mood, and usually if we talk things over, she feels much better. But she didn’t feel like sharing with me this time. Both of us had a miserable day because of it, and I still feel bad about not being able to help her. We usually have so much fun together. Coming home tonight to 2 wonderful letters from fabulous Nate was a beautiful top-off to a difficult day. Thank you! I love you.

July 15, 1969 – Dearest Meg. I’m glad you like my letters. They are manifestations of my love for you. The greatest thing about me is loving you. I will always love you and be faithful to you. I have waited a long time and would never do anything to spoil it. I’m looking forward to the weekend but won’t be able to stay overnight. This pre-finals study time is precious, and Saturday is all I can spare. If the Chicago teachers do strike next week, please come down here to be with me in my time of trial (finals!).

July 15, 1969 – Dear Future Husband. Saturday morning’s train can’t come soon enough for me! When my day involves you, it is complete. When I’m not near you, I’m frustrated.

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)