Young Love (#107)

November 2, 1969

With Aunt AgnesAfter a Saturday full of astonishing surprises, Nate and I headed for Aunt Agnes’s quiet condo to continue working on wedding invitations. We were past the date when we’d wanted to get them mailed, and time was running out. She was glad to see us, relishing the time with us almost as much as we were enjoying time with her.

At about midnight, while Nate was taking a bathroom break, Aunt Agnes leaned across the card table where we were working and said, “You know, I think he likes me.” And she was right – but it didn’t just go one way. Aunt Agnes loved Nate’s gentlemanly manners and the way he deferred to her, but he also appreciated her generosity and fun-loving spirit — along with her delicious coffee.

Once again we pursued our project until the wee hours before running out of steam. It was well into Sunday before Aunt Agnes and I finally flopped into her bed and Nate closed his eyes in the guest room. But the invitations were nearly finished.

The next day (after church) it was time to head to Milwaukee to see Julie’s bedroom set and find out if she really thought we could care for it properly. But her only concern was whether or not we’d like it. “This might not be your style,” she said, “so you can be honest. If you don’t want it, I’ll figure out something else.”

IMG_5254When we got a look at the furniture, we were dumbstruck. It was unique in every way with a curved headboard on the double bed and curled wood framing each mirror. The protective glass tops made everything shine, and for both of us it was love at first sight.

“You can have the spread, too,” she said, at which point I flopped on the bed to find out what imported silk felt like.

“Good thing my grandma didn’t just see that,” Julie said. “In all her years of marriage, she never let her husband so much as touch that bedspread, much less sit on it…. or flop on it.” I hopped up immediately and promised to do better, but Julie was laughing.

Dresser drawerWe arranged to pay shipping costs to Champaign, and down the road, if she never had cause to want it back in Wisconsin, we would pay for it. Julie said, “Remember, you’re saving me a monthly storage fee.” But we had no doubts about who was getting the better deal.

With joyful hearts we made our way back to Champaign with only 27 days left before the wedding. Little did we know that the coming week was going to bring a crisis.

“From His abundance we have all received one gracious blessing after another.” (John 1:16)

Young Love (#106)

November 1, 1969

Another shower.Our weekend in Wilmette included a really big surprise: a third bridal shower! This one was given by 20-somethings for 20-somethings, and as I scanned the room, all of my best friends were there. (Right, with Mary) The ruse they’d used to be sure I’d show up was a make-believe appointment with our wedding caterer. There was no appointment, and she wasn’t even there among the guests. But what’s a surprise party without a little trickery?

 

Red glassWe played games, ate sweet treats, and opened more gifts. Connie and Lynn had specified that it be an “all glass” shower, and this spectacular theme became evident after the first few presents. I was in heaven.

The afternoon’s entertainment turned out to be…. me. Well, me along with a good college buddy, Kathy. She and I had sung in a talent show (think pretend-talent) at Wheaton in long gowns and fake operatic voices.

WunderbarBy popular demand at the shower, we happily sang through our short repertoire, which included our most-requested number, “Ah, Sweet Mystery of Life.”

When Mary and I pulled into Mom and Dad’s driveway (the back seat once again loaded with gift boxes), another surprise awaited. Nate ran out to meet us, telling us that my college roommate, Julie, had just called with good news. She was looking for a place to store her grandmother’s bedroom set and wondered if our Champaign apartment might be available.

I called her back for the details and learned it was elegant furniture, hand made in the 1920’s of Australian satinwood with tiny floral inlays, also of satinwood. The set included a double bed, night stand, dresser, high-boy chest of drawers, vanity with matching chair, and two 4-foot mirrors. Each piece had a thick slab of glass on it for protection. We couldn’t envision all this grandeur, so Nate and I made plans to drive to Milwaukee (where Julie lived) the next afternoon to take a look. Our only concern was that we’d be able to properly care for such fine furniture — until Julie needed it back.

Our 2 momsAnd there was one more special surprise. Nate’s mother called (to the right of mom) to say she and her friends wanted to give me a bridal shower in Nate’s home town the following weekend. I was speechless.

“Freely you have received; freely give.” (Matt. 10:8)

Young Love (#105)

November 1, 1969

As Nate and I drove the well-traveled road between our Champaign apartment and my folks’ Wilmette home, we realized it was the first day of November – our wedding month! Although we’d been engaged for only 4 months, the wait seemed forever. Neither of us had any second thoughts, and we could hardly wait till November 29.

From my journal: As for my feelings about getting married, I’m anticipating it with eagerness! Everyone says marriage is a challenge, but I can’t wait to get started. Over these last few months, I’ve gotten lots of valuable advice in hash-over sessions with Mary, Mom, my girlfriends, and others. I have a lot of theories about husbands and wives and am going to try them all out. Nate and I have also talked about sex a lot. Maybe that’s why we’ve been able to abstain thus far. But that wedding night? It’s going to be sweet!

Drake HotelAs we drove, we talked about our honeymoon, making the decision to spend all 4 days at Chicago’s historic Drake Hotel. The first night we decided we’d pay the extra price for a suite of two rooms but after that would move to a regular room. During the day we’d stroll the Chicago streets, do a little shopping, walk along Lake Michigan’s beaches, and “take naps” back at the hotel. In the evenings we’d eat out and attend one live show and a movie or two.

When we arrived at Mom and Dad’s, the kitchen was still torn up, and new appliances had been delivered…. to the living room. But Mom still wasn’t worried.

Kneeling benchDad was spending every free minute at Moody Church, supervising the installation of a new sound system suspended from the super-high ceiling. While he was there, new carpet had been laid on the steps leading to the lower platform where we would be married, and a new kneeling bench had arrived. The church had also ordered new white cloth runners for the very long double aisles in the sanctuary, and they too had been delivered.

As soon as we stepped into Mom’s front door she said, “Wait’ll you see this!” She led us to the garage where a long table was piled high with tiny white boxes about 3 inches square. Our names and the wedding date were printed on the lids. “Groom’s cake!” she said. She explained how her friends had spent 3 evenings folding all 500 boxes.

Fruit cake“And I’ve ordered 104 pounds of fruit cake. When it gets here we’ll slice it, wrap each piece, and fill the boxes. You know what they say. If you’re a single lady wanting to be married, put a piece of groom’s cake under your pillow, and one day your prince will come.”

Nate raised his eyebrows and looked at me, not sure what to say. I just nodded our approval and said, “Good job on the boxes!”

That afternoon as Nate put twinkle lights on the back yard evergreens, I went to meet with our caterer. But when I walked through her door, a group of 25 friends came around the corner and shouted, “Surprise!”

It was another bridal shower!

“Rejoice with those who rejoice.” (Romans 12:15)