Young Love (#83)

August 16-17, 1969

 

Nate and I arrived in Champaign with our first load of possessions and carried each box, bag, crate, and suitcase up to our 3rd floor apartment. Up and down, up and down, fueled by the joy of feathering our first nest.

The apartment included a living room with a Murphy bed that pulled down from a closet (in the living room), a kitchenette with 18” of counter space, a dining room, an ironing board that also pulled out of the wall, a small bathroom, and a very empty bedroom. After we’d finished moving in, the rooms still looked pretty bare, but it was a start.

Our hardwood floors were in great shape, but every footstep echoed, and almost immediately the tenant beneath us began banging on her ceiling (our floor) to let us know we were “walking too loud.” After all, it was the sixties, and most homes boasted wall-to-wall carpeting in every room, sometimes even the kitchen and bathroom. “Naked” floors were a sign of inadequacy…. or, in our case, poverty.

Moving into 620We unpacked our clothes (from suitcases) but had no drawers to put them in. So we piled them on the bedroom floor. It would be an easy way to coordinate an outfit, since everything would be visible. And of course we brought the ball Nate had given me immediately after we’d become engaged 6 weeks previously. Hardwood floors made for great dribbling, though the tenant below us disagreed.

Mom and Dad had given us a brand new card table and two folding chairs as a housewarming gift, so we set those up in the dining room. They would be multi-functional – for eating, studying, and meal prep.

My folks had also given us a well worn set of china Mom no longer wanted (from the forties), most of which was chipped or cracked, but we were grateful. Wedding gifts would come eventually, but these hand-me-downs were perfect for the interim. She also contributed a set of pink sheets for the pull-down bed, an orange blanket, and one pillow (just for me, she said, since Nate would be spending his nights elsewhere). With a few kitchen utensils and a couple of sauce pans, we felt quite prepared.

Red glass collectionBest of all, though, I’d brought my red glass goblets, each one different, and each one given by a dear friend at a special time in my life. I’d accumulated them through my college and working years, and they sparkled like jewels in our curtain-less front window.

The purpose of our weekend wasn’t to organize our apartment, though. It was to paint.

 

Painting

Nate had never painted anything in his life, but he was game, despite our attic-level apartment being as hot as an oven. I was the woodwork person, and he partnered with a roller for the better part of two days as we chatted our way through transforming the rooms. It was delightful to dream together about all that would happen in this place in coming months, and although the weekend theme could have been “Surviving Toxic Fumes,” instead it was, “Dreaming of Bright Tomorrows.”

“A dream fulfilled is a tree of life.” (Proverbs 13:12)

Young Love (#82)

August 15-16, 1969

As we readied to drive the 156 miles from Champaign back to Wilmette, Nate and I reflected on everything that had happened since we’d left. We had found a room for him to rent until the wedding, signed the lease on an apartment that would become our first home as Mr. & Mrs., and most importantly, secured a teaching job for me. Not bad for two day’s work.

Ready to paint.Just before leaving, we stopped at a hardware store and bought several cans of paint, dropping them off at our new address: 620 Healey Street, Champaign. The apartment walls were swimming-pool-blue, which wasn’t going to blend too well with our registry choices of orange, yellow, and kiwi green. So we knew we had our work cut out for us when we returned.

Once back in Wilmette, we shared our three “finds” with my parents, asking to borrow their VW van to begin moving things to Champaign the next morning. It was only 2½ weeks before the first school day, and we couldn’t wait to get back to our new life together as a couple. At long last our formerly separate paths were converging.

By now Mom and Dad had given up trying to talk sense into us and just shared our joy – especially the part about me finding a job. The one comment Mom did make was, “What about camp?”

“Oh,” I said, “we’re still planning on that. But not till Sunday evening.” (It was Friday.)

The next morning Nate and I, in his car and my folks’ van, headed for my Chicago apartment, and with my roommates’ help, we began carrying things out. That turned out to be far more emotional than I’d anticipated. As we packed up my few possessions (mostly a collection of glass items and a model Corvette) I found myself grieving over the end of this unique phase of life – single working girl in the big city with three fabulous roommates. It had been such a happy time, and I had trouble holding back tears.

Our apartment

Living with Marti, Marsha, and ClarLyn in our garden apartment had been a remarkable phase of life that wouldn’t come around again. And saying goodbye was much harder than I thought it would be.

But these three had been faithful cheerleaders in my initial relationship with Nate, and they generously shared my happiness when we became engaged. I would never forget their enthusiasm and how much it meant to me.

Roommates

As Nate and I left, it was comforting to know the four of us would be together again at the wedding in November. The girls had all agreed to play a part, so as I surrendered my key, this made the parting less painful.

After we’d said goodbye, Nate was ready (as always) with something helpful to say. This time he used the old adage, “The one constant in life is change.” But then he said, “Don’t worry, Meg. It’s all going to turn out just right.” And his warm hug of support cemented that in my mind.

Then we were off – two vehicles pointed toward a new life in Champaign. And we couldn’t wait to get there!

“The Lord will go before you, the God of Israel will be your rear guard.” (Isaiah 52:12)

Young Love (#81)

August 15-17, 1969

Nate and I had pressed our parents hard to agree to a wedding well ahead of when they thought we should marry. Rather than wait until after he had graduated from law school, we insisted we would be just fine if we married while he was still a student. Being separated had worn down both of us, and we’d had our fill of it.

BaconThe most important piece of that plan, then, was that I find a way to bring home the bacon while he studied. And the best way to do that would be to teach school.

My former teaching position in Chicago had fallen into my lap with very little effort, despite not having a degree in education. So I mistakenly assumed the same thing would happen in Champaign — teacher shortages were still the norm around the country. It was a shock to hear they wouldn’t hire me there, no matter what my experience, because they knew I wouldn’t stay more than a year or two.

There was still one possibility, though.

If I was willing to clock some significant miles every day, I could teach in an outlying district. Danville, Illinois, 40 miles from Champaign, was on a list indicating they had one opening left at a school named McKinley.

My school.

Nate and I went back to the phone booth in front of 7-Eleven, and I called the principal. Talking to him was encouraging. His one opening could be mine, he said, if I wanted it. I was thrilled, and felt God was orchestrating this good fortune for us. But then came the bad news. “I assume you’re qualified to teach 1st grade,” he said.

“First grade?” The job hadn’t been for kindergarten, as I’d thought.

I knew absolutely nothing about teaching 1st grade except that it was a critical year in every student’s education. Children needed to be taught the fundamentals of reading and math among other things, and it was mandatory that a 1st grade teacher prepare them well for the more complicated curriculum of 2nd grade. I felt that if I took the position I’d be in over my head.

So, when the principal asked if I was interested, I was surprised to hear myself say — with gusto — “Absolutely. I’ll take the job!”

At McKinley SchoolNate and I drove out to see the school that afternoon, and the custodian let us in. As I stood in front of 25 empty desks in the 1st grade classroom, I wondered why on earth I’d said yes. But my tenderhearted fiancé put his arm around me and said, “Don’t worry, Meg. It can’t be that much different than kindergarten. And the most important thing is that you’ll love the children, no matter what their age.”

I bought that, and stopped worrying. It would be fun to get acquainted with a roomful of new students and to make friends with the other teachers, one in each grade. Besides, how hard could the job possibly be?

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)