Young Love (#80)

Swimming poolChoosing places to live, one for each of us, was going to be simple compared to finding a teaching position. So we tackled that happy chore first, quickly narrowing it down to two finalists. One apartment was in a large complex of several hundred units and was only two years old. Best of all, there was a big swimming pool in the middle. The apartment lacked personality and was small, but there were lots of other students renting there… and that beautiful pool!

620 Healey St.The other was a third-floor walkup in a very old brick building. It had glass-paned doors between the rooms, a cute step into the bathroom, built-in glass-front cabinets, leaded windows, and best of all, a wood-burning fireplace. For both of us, it was no contest. We chose the walkup and were given the good news that it was available immediately.

As for a job, my meeting at the Champaign Board of Education started happy but ended sad. The interviewer told me I wouldn’t have any trouble getting a teaching position based on my two years of experience in the Chicago Public Schools, but then he asked why I had left Chicago.

I told him I was about to marry a grad student at the U of I and would be moving just in time for the start of the academic year. That’s when his face fell. “Oh.” he said. “I’m so sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but we have a policy against hiring spouses of students. They come and then they quickly go, and it makes for a very unstable teaching staff. You won’t be able to teach in this district or anywhere nearby.”

I was pretty sure I heard a door slam and wondered why God would bring us this far and then say “no way.” So I asked a question.

“Well – would you have any advice for me?”

“The only thing I can suggest is looking in other towns away from the Champaign/Urbana area… that is if you don’t mind a long commute. Do you have a car?”

I thought about our Corvette and the variety of crises it seemed to attract, knowing I probably couldn’t count on it for a long daily drive. But Nate had his VW, so I answered with a yes.

The interviewer pushed a paper across his polished desktop and said, “Call these schools. Last I heard, there were still a few openings.” I thanked him and reminded myself how much I loved road trips.

MapWhen I reconnected with Nate, he was eager to report he’d found a room near the university with a cheap month-to-month rent that would work until we married. He comforted me about my disappointment at the Board of Ed but agreed we should investigate the outlying schools.

The closest one was in Danville, 40 miles away. An 80-mile round trip each day would be a commitment of time, gas money, and wear and tear on a car. So he asked how badly I wanted to teach, and after I said “a lot,” he urged me to call.

When I did, I was greeted with a good-news-bad-news situation.

“You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me.” (Psalm 139:5)

Young Love (#79)

August 10-17, 1969

 

Racing through the first week of August and into the second reinforced to Nate and I that we needed to get to Champaign to work on those two important decisions: an apartment for me, which would become our apartment together after November 29… and a job.

City of ChampaignI still held out hope for a teaching position rather than settling for low-paying work I didn’t like. My two years teaching kindergarten in Chicago had been pure joy, and I’d loved my young students like they were my own. But I didn’t even know what day Champaign kids were scheduled to start school — much less have any “in” at the Board of Ed.

Nate’s law classes would resume in September, and he needed to find a place to rent, just for the 3 months before our wedding. We were still determined to wait until after we were married before living together and knew we would fail if we tried to use the same space as platonic roommates.

Just then, as we were making a new list, I got a bad sore throat, earache, and fever. Relatives from New York arrived that day, and Mom suggested we all head for the summer cottage in Michigan… and the beach. Nate surrounded his sick fiancée with tender loving care, insisting on a visit to a Michigan doctor, who prescribed antibiotics. Two days later I was feeling better, and we were back at my apartment, reading encouraging mail from Aunt Joyce:

Aunt Joyce“I’m so glad you and Nate have included the Lord in your relationship. He is the key ingredient to marriage stability, and keeping your love alive and enduring when you face the verities of life on earth. I’m thrilled to know you are putting the emphasis on the Lord Himself, and I’m so excited and happy for you! We are all excited!”

As we drove to Champaign on August 14, we prayed that God would open doors and show us what to do at every decision point. We were at a significant threshold in our lives and didn’t want to make a misstep. And we wanted our bottom line to be exactly as Aunt Joyce had written it: putting the emphasis on the Lord Himself. That was the only way to insure we wouldn’t go wrong.

7 Eleven storeOur first stop was at a Champaign 7-Eleven where we bought a local newspaper and got a dollar’s worth of dimes to start calling on apartment rentals. We used the pay phone outside the store to begin investigating, along with the phone booth’s dangling book of yellow pages to contact the local Board of Education.

After a couple of hours, we had lined up 4 apartments to see the next day and made an interview appointment for a teaching position. But those “verities of life on earth?” We were about to connect with a big one.

“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is.” (Romans 12:2)

Young Love (#78)

August 2-7, 1969

 

Registry

Wedding planning kicked into high gear during the first week of August. Nate and I made a quick trip to downtown Chicago to finalize all the choices that would go on our gift registry. A seasoned employee at Marshall Fields helped us narrow things down, and by the end of the morning, she had checked all the appropriate boxes on the bridal registry forms.

 

 

LoveNate and I held hands throughout the process, sneaking a kiss now and then as we envisioned our first “nest” (as he called it) decorated in the vibrant colors we chose: orange, yellow, and kiwi green.

We also spent time perusing used car lots, looking for a practical replacement for our impractical Corvette, but we weren’t quite sure what we were looking for. We would need a loan from Dad to swing any purchase, so we decided to wait till after the Corvette had been sold before approaching him. Since it had a couple of mechanical issues, it might take a while. Besides, we were happy to cross one item off our long list.

Our caterer would be a dear family friend, and Jeanette’s casual attitude helped immensely as she outlined practical suggestions for the “light supper” menu we wanted. In those days, most receptions were held right in the church, so that part was easy. Choosing a giant wedding cake was a little trickier. How do you feed 500 people from one cake? We tabled that decision till later.

Mom at Moody organ.Mom promised to look into music options, since she was the musical one among us. She announced she would be playing either the piano or organ for 6 other autumn weddings and could hunt through sheet music for all of them at once. We wondered how she would keep it all straight but decided not to worry about it… and crossed it off.

Choosing and ordering invitations at a printer didn’t take long. Both Nate and I were traditionalists and decided to mix elegant with tried-&-true. At the last minute we eliminated the response card and its envelope, trying to save Mom and Dad some money. If it upset Mom that she wouldn’t know how many guests would be coming, she never showed it… probably because she had become fully absorbed in redecorating their new home.

Mom was meeting with kitchen consultants, tentatively planning to gut the old kitchen and get it completed before the wedding. She was also shopping for drapes, carpeting, furniture, and paint colors. Her plan was to paint every room herself, labeling it “therapy for when I get too busy.” She wasn’t joking.

Carole and Reggie's weddingNate and I wondered when we’d be able to get back to Champaign to seek my employment and find an apartment, but by the end of that first week in August, we were off to Rockford, Illinois, where I was a bridesmaid for Carole, a close friend from Wheaton.

The wedding rehearsal fell on my birthday, but Mom insisted we have a party anyway. Nate and I did our best to get there quickly but arrived near 10:00 PM… which is when the party began. Little did we know that jam-packed days like these would soon become the norm.

“Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace.” (Ephesians 4:3)